Is this end of the road?

[Lozzerbmc]

Feels like the end for DP and me. We’ve been together 15 years and have a DC13. He never wanted to marry. 4 years ago he considered dumping me for someone he met one night at a party. He’s been on dating apps to “meet people” (yeah right!) because he feels trapped as he moved away from friends to be with me. We are rarely intimate (i had early menopause so share some blame as didnt feel like it) and my self esteem is low as he prefers porn.

He isnt a hands on dad but he is a generous and thoughtful one. Our DC would be devastated.

He says he loves me and talks a lot about future plans for us, but I just cant get over the trust issues. I just feel i’m just waiting for the next horrible discovery.

I feel if I cant be in a relationship where I feel cherished, I’d rather be alone.

If you can’t trust him and you don’t feel cherished then yes, it’s the end of the road.

You deserve to be cherished.

Just re-read your OP. There are three dealbreakers right there: cheating, dating apps and porn. No wonder you don’t feel cherished. Stop putting up with it. There are better men out there, really truly. And yes, you’d be better alone too.

It sounds like it died long ago, to be honest.

I'd have booted him 4 years ago at least. You will be happier alone rather than with someone who makes you feel shit.

Thank you for your replies. I wished i dealt with things differently 4 years ago - he swore nothing happened but its hard to believe.

I feel in a stronger place now though to move forward and separate and have started planning. I just feel so sad for my DC.

Don’t look back, look forward. You’re so right, he’s not worthy of you and you’ll be much happier without him.

You deserve to be cherished

If the dc are devastated it’s because of the choices he made and not because of the choices you’ve been forced to make.