I have posted about this guy before. But now I am more confused or disappointed. Think I have feelings again snd he is not interested.
He is my ex of over a year. We stayed friends and through lockdown met up few times a month but constantly texted. We both were seeing other people but both our relationships ended around December time. We decided to bubble.
Out bubble was seeing each other few times a week after work and at weekends, we stayed over and shared a bed. We live 45 mins drive, but he worked in my city. Agreed lockdown fun and was discussing getting back together. It worked. Then he had a life event happen and was signed off work long term. Fun stopped but cuddles stayed. I have been supporting him amd he was out on anti depression tablets. Did share a bed for comfort. His tablets have made him unable to sleep more than 4 hrs a time and has trouble falling asleep. We stopped staying over. He says he doesn’t want to disturb me
We stopped sharing a bed. I have a day off in the week, so we meet up and spend the whole day together. Previously when he was working he would drop in after work as i WFH. Now he won’t as says it’s too far to travel for an hour or so, or too tired. I suggest going to his, but sane answer.
Now this is the part that is causing me anxiety. He has a few friends who are off during the week, so kind of has us on rota. He says it keeps him busy and helps him cope. One friend is a girl he has known for years, but I know they had a fling last summer over 6 weeks. It ended as he didn’t want to commit to a relationship with her and went out with someone else. Still friends. But she is stunning.
However, he seems to spend more days with her. For example I asked if he wanted to do something last night. He didn’t reply till the morning saying sorry was busy, the girl came round for a take away and a film, but she left at 9pm. Normally if he was seeing someone he would be caggy at the start. But was honest.
Since spending more time with her, he is texting me less and seeing me less. I have asked if he is interested in her. He says no she is a friend who is also supporting him. I am his close friend. He is not in the right frame of mind for that. But he does talk about her loads. They always end texts with kisses.
So really he is priming her for a relationship isn’t he? They only got close when he told her his life event and being off work? I feel all the talk about us is not going to happen? My feelings are there, but really he is an ex and it needs to stay that way.
Tell me what to do? I know I need to retreat, but I can’t whilst he is going through a really horrible time. I have tried to put boundaries and stopped texting loads. Trying to fad out, but I can’t.