Very communicative.
He had issues. Mental health. Physical health. But was coming across as positive to start with. Loved his company!
He was leaning on me abit too much though and I hadn't really realised in the early weeks. It was only as we should have been moving onto the next stage I realised he was emotionally unavailable. Not sure if he enjoyed the chase more than the catch! But he hid it well. Was pretty much in contact hourly and saw a future. Including potential living together one day.
It became clear he wasn't as invested as he had faked. Everything he said he was,basically was the opposite it turned out.
He described himself as
Loyal.
Faithful.
In love.
Fun and random.
Said I was the first lady he had noticed since splitting from his ex in 2018. He
Suggested teaching me to drive. Told me long term if we were settled I could get an evening job and he may well be able to help me with my children. He started asking me if he could send me money to put away for our future. Told me he loved me after a lovely afternoon together. I felt the same.
It was going slow but with him saying alot of big stuff for the future. I felt comfortable as I didn't want anything too intense for a couple of years. Just to enjoy eachothers time.
Things started becoming strange. He seemed to still want me but his behaviour was changing. He was always online. Even at 2am. Just messaging ladies from his past. His ex was constantly texting him and he seemed to be enjoying it but acting for me like she was a pain in his bum.
He shared a photo of a sports car on Facebook and put I love this car. Some man wrote as much as katie? He put loads of laughing faces and said we split 3 years ago mate. But I could tell he was thrilled he was still linked to her. I realised he was living in the past. I saw a photo of her and we dress similar. Both have the same shaped face. Brown eyes. Both younger than him. Then he almost called me her name on the phone.
I tried to talk to him about what he was ready for. I told him I felt he wasn't 100% sure yet that I was the one. He took it really bad. I had started noticing him flirting and eyeing up women on Instagram and Facebook.
I heard nothing for 3 weeks but I was filled in by a protective friend who knew his work friends. They describe him as a p* head. A dangerous driver who crashed a workvan. He was sacked for being drunk at work. Smoked weed. (He had told me about his past but had a seizure or two and did change his ways and doesn't touch booze anymore)
He got back in touch and I accepted his friend request. I wasn't decided any further but had agreed to meet him that week for a conversation. I was in two minds whether to go. We didn't get as far as that meet because when he re-added me on Facebook he had added 15 new women to his Facebook and a few were already flirting with him. So I deleted and told him it was over.
I know now he's not very nice and a complusive liar. He's a cheat. His cousin called me and she said she was glad I was out of it as he's horrible to women and I wasn't the first to be confused and hurt by him.
I'm afraid of what to expect going forward. Does this sort of man tend to stay away when he's rumbled or come back? I'm worried he might make my life hell.
He never met my children which is the only blessing in this.