I have posted a lot in the past (as Flightattendant) regarding my horrible ex and his rather bullying mother...
I had my second baby in June and she kept on at me to let her visit, on her terms and when she wanted to - lots of you told me not to let her walk over me, and I stood up to her and haven't heard from her since...her son was supposed to visit the baby also in June but he didn't turn up, and I didn't ring to ask why because he was abusive while I was pregnant, and that was why I left 3 months into the pregnancy...he was not around all that time.
Anyway I have had a letter from her today. It was obviously redirected by our friendly postman, as it had completely the wrong address on it. In it she states that she doesn't have my address (I gave it her a few months ago) or phone number (which she also had, and her son has) so she didn't know if it would reach me. (This in itself gives me the message that she would be quite glad if it didn't reach me )
She says that her mother has recently died and has left her great grandchildren some money, including my son apparently - I never knew the woman existed, thought they were all dead, but I may be wrong - she wants to carry out these wishes and could I ring her when it is convenient.
She says she is hesitant to make contact due to the 'terrible' circumstance surrounding the arrival of my child. (I don't know what she means except that his father was a git, and never rang to say he wasn't coming - otherwise maybe he has told her something untrue about why he didn't come, like perhaps that I told him not to or was horrible whic I wasn't. ?
Anyway, what do I do? I remember she was pretty forceful in demanding to come here just after I'd given birth, was laughing off her son's abuse, pretty much blaming me for overreacting etc. and sounded very self centred, saying she was depressed and couldn#'t stop crying about it and her son was also depressed (where was I or the baby in all this, well that didn't seem relevant to her)
I love my baby more than I can say, and of course it's sad if I can't share him with the other side of his family so part of me wants to ring - but also I am afraid of it bringing his father into the picture, something I dread, and also I have a feeling she likes all the drama of being 'denied' access which of course she's not.
They are a very paranoid family and tend to make things up a bit.
Help...