Husbands behaviour

[Hurtinrightnow]

I’m sat here heartbroken again!!! Married 21 years and probably been a door mat for all of those!!!
I have just found that my husband has been on KIK again!! After promising 6 months ago to never do it again!! And to be honest there has been other things over the years and I know I should have left years ago.
I need to find the strength to end this but it is so hard with children involved and my husband has no family to turn to. Need to stop crying before they wake up as is a family birthday today. This is my first time posting but just needed to tell someone and get in out there x

I'm so sorry. I don't know what KIK is, but I get the gist.
This man will never change, so you have some decisions to make.
be nice to yourself today

You could be me 3 years ago.
I was in a similar situation, I put up with numerous emotional affairs over my 17 yr marriage abd in the end I had enough.
My husband would beg and plead and promise not to do it again but he always did.
After we split he told me he did it all for ego boosts and if he had realised that one day I would leave (as threatened every time) he would have stopped🙄
He told me he would never have left me for anyone implying that he thought I would put up and shut up.

My husband has no family either except our daughter, and the house we lived in was mine. He ended up private renting and does ok (suicide attempts,harassment aside)

What is your housing situation?
What is your financial situation?

Promises, empty promises.
Do you own/rent ?
Do you work ?
Do either of you have a private pension ?
Do you have your own/joint bank account ?
Have you looked at solicitors ?

my husband has no family to turn to why would you care about him? He certainly didn't care about you enough to stop all that crap with KIK. He should have thought about where he would end up if you ended your marriage because of his actions.

Agree with Sorting you need to start with what is your housing situation and what is your financial situation?

my husband has no family to turn to why would you care about him? He certainly didn't care about you enough to stop all that crap with KIK. He should have thought about where he would end up if you ended your marriage because of his actions

This. It doesn't matter if he has anyone to turn to or not. He did this. The main focus needs to be you and your children and he simply doesn't matter anymore.

@Hurtinrightnow

Are you listening to yourself ? You're still putting HIM and HIS needs above yours !

Who gives a shiny shit whether or not he has someone to 'turn to' ?

He certainly didn't give a shiny shit about what his decisions and actions would have on you and your DD did he ??

He broke your marriage not you !

And how he manages to 'deal with it', is HIS problem, not yours.

Concentrate only on what you want/need and how you are going to move forward with your life as a single parent.

Hi op - you do need to focus on yourself. It’s not your issue that he has no one else - he had a family and has f it up.
You take care.

It’s time to leave now op.
Yes it’s hard when you have a family but you can’t stay for him to do again and again.
This is his problem, he’s broke his family let him deal with it.
You concentrate on yourself and the DC.

So he has no family to turn to. Well that would be hard cheese for him then - he has only himself to blame for his actions.