Hi all,
So, as the title suggests...anyone else have stress with blended family?
I've been with my partner 4 years. We have 3 DS's between us. His is 13, mine 10 and our 2 year old.
My partner is naturally a loud person, as is his son. Whereas myself and my son always lived a quiet existence where we would communicate via talking not shouting. My boy is well behaved and listens to what I tell him, don't get me wrong no child is perfect.
I find it hard when my partners DS is with us, don't get me wrong he's a nice boy and will chat lovely to me but it's hard work. He's addicted to his phone/Xbox. He'll walk in through the door and sit on his phone with his headphones in from the time he gets out of bed until 11.30pm. of my partner asks him to come outside for even 10.mins there is shouting, arguements threats. My partner never actually follows through with confiscation of the phone and the arguement results in his son storming off upstairs with his phone and basically getting his own way. My partner and I always end up arguing because I can't see how he lets his son about at him, call him stupid etc (my son has never spoken to me like this). Also my son hates the loudness and ends up upset.
I know he's now 13 but he's been like this for the last 4 years of me knowing him. He hates his dad doing anything with him but it's a very stressful household and trying to do things as a family.
His son is with us this weekend and I've left them to it for a few hours today and taken our 2 year old out. I came home and he's not loved from his phone.
My partner was going to take him out but didn't, I think he finds it too much hard work.as he shouts and argues. We cant even get him off the phone 10mins whilst we eat dinner, which annoys me. I appreciate he loves his phone and he's at an age he doesn't want to play etc but he needs to develop some social skills, if at at family event he's got no interest in anyone and I think it's a shame!
I've given up thinking of ways to change things because the weekends are so stressful that I've had to avoid the situation in order to cope.