Emotional affair caught by husband

[brownbeauty]

Exchanged some very light hearted flirting with a guy who found me on an app that many ppl use and needs no personal details like phone number or email..
he eventually tracked me down to Facebook and found out where I worked n family etc etc..
He was adamant he was in love with me..
I chatted to him to as a friend only but he was not satisfied with just friendly talks..
Sent him a few non risky pix..
Called him a few times
He took screenshots without my permission of the video calls which were when I was cooking or just doing nothing..
So anyway...
He said he wanted more or he would tell my husband...
I started taking screenshots of chats..
so I told my husband instead
But since June last year I have been emotionally involved with a guy.. nothing dirty.. nothing rude.. just hi hello how's ur day how's family how's work what did u eat etc etc.. it's very very close to love but still so far..
Anyway after I told my husband about the harassment he asked for my phone so I ha see it over having already checked it for traces of my emotional affair..
Well I forgot that Google pictures also backs up hidden pictures..
And husband saw his pix.. again all normal gym related and just random food n tattoo ideas that I asked him for...
Now husband has made me block and delete him...
But I'm struggling so bad to not think of him...
I think not being able to contact him has made me miss him more..
God knows what state his mind must be in to have me suddenly disappear from all social media where we were connected...
husband made me deactivate all accounts from everywhere...
God I just miss the chats we used to have about all n sundry...
I have two pix that husband hasn't noticed...
After I blocked and deleted him husband used his own fb account to find him and get his number to call him to find out the extent of our relationship ... this was from my phone so again I have his number in my list of last dialled...
I don't know how that conversation went as husband won't tell me...
I'm happy with husband but we just don't have the type of talks that keep my mind busy anymore..
I miss my emotional guy like crazy and keep thinking how he must be feeling to have me suddenly gone....
so sad.....

Oh I've mixed up the men

@SimonJT

Why does your husband having friends give you permission to have an affair?

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You don’t love your husband. Leave him and let him move on with his life..

I think it’s time for you to grow up and take your marriage and family seriously

Why do you keep looking for other men?

Oh my god- your poor husband

Oh ffs. OP if you don't want to be in a relationship don't be in one.

Emotional affairs are equally as destructive and horrendous and physical affairs in my book. Do you husband a favour and end your marriage.

I don’t understand why you have to chat to a random guy online. Either end it with your husband and find a new one, or make some friends.

The weird guy wants to be with you.
You want to be with the weird guy.
Toodle along then.

@bonfireheart

The weird guy wants to be with you. You want to be with the weird guy. Toodle along then.

She doesn't. She wants to have her reliable, good with the kids safety net DH and her exciting and unpredictable new guy for thrills. She doesn't want one or the other- she wants both.

Thanks for the support...

@brownbeauty

Husband is still connected to his ex from 22 years ago and I learnt to live with that 5 years ago... he does not keep contact with her daily.. They are a part of a school friends reunited group chat.. it's such a mess....!!!!

This is so weird. You don’t seem to care that you might hurt your DH.

Why on Earth does he put up with you?

What support do you want OP?

You sound immature and selfish OP.Not a thought for your husband,just for yourself.

Do the right thing and end your marriage,your husband deserves better.

What support are you looking for op? You haven't really taken the fact that you have emotionally cheated on your husband on board. You're feeling sorry for yourself because you got caught and now can't talk to the man you were talking to.

You sound like a horrible person. Do your husband a favor and end the marriage so he can find someone who will not cheat on him...

Don't be too hard on yourself & ignore all the nasty comments. We all do things we wish we hadn't, it's finding out why that's the key. Having a crush can make life more exciting but that feeling becomes addictive. Everything you think of him think to yourself no and push him out of your mind.

How long before you find another man to fill the gaps in your marriage? I don’t think you really appreciate how your behaviour has changed the dynamic of your relationship.

Is there more to your H’s friendship with an Ex, other than a weak excuse you use to get overly emotionally involved with random men?

Leave your husband for the man you want to be with - but don't be surprised if it bites you on the arse. The grass isn't always greener. Sometimes it's a swamp and you find yourself sinking, with no-one to rescue you.

Wow. So you messaged other men and you're justifying that by saying your Dh has his ex from 22 years ago, in a group chat??
It's not even in the same realm as what you're doing. Grow up.

Blimey.

Leave you're husband.

I'd have booted you to the kerb to be honest, you've had 2 emotional affairs and care more about the feelings of one of them than that of your husbands.

So what? Why not parent the kids you made instead of obsessing over cock. How embarrassing.

Is your husbands friend a girl he went out with whilst at school? If so how can this be in anyway comparable to you having affairs as an adult?