DP 'virtually married' a blonde on Facebook. Help

[ClockworkClown]

I'm very upset and weepy. I discovered all these threads from someone my dp has been chatting up (sometimes till 4.am) on Facebook. He uses my computer. He has made saucy suggestions, asked her to 'run away' with him and she has sent personal photos (not rude exactly but provocative) of herself to his email .

In some section he describes himself as 'virtually married' to her..

I feel like I've been reading his mind looking at all this stuff. He 'hates the English' (I am he's not) 'prefers blondes' I'm not she is . He didn't mention me or our boy trying, I guess, to appear young and free - his photo on the site is 15 yrs out of date for fecks sake!! . I know its not real as she is overseas, but still I feel horrible.

I confronted him this morning and it turns out its my fault. Things have been pretty poor for a while but this feels like the last straw. Am I being ridiculous?

Well aint that bloody typical he did that CC, now you know! He's obvioulsy changed the password so he can still continue his secret alternate life.
Another idea...when he gets his own pc he may permanently log in to facebook, you don't need a password that way!

Just a suggestion...have you checked your history on your computer lately?

Writing his cv? Blimey you are such a good woman to him...and he treats you this way.? How cruel

Oh Purple, that's not the half of it! I try to make it work because he loves ds so much and ds him and that seems a relationship worth fighting for.

Someone told me lately that while taking action is brilliant, I need to consider whether 'doing everything' is the right action to take. I'm pondering that (in exhausted fashion).

I think he is cruel to me .

I think most women have so much more emotional strength than most men. He's behaved like a prat and is embarrassed you've caught him out, which is why he's trying to make light of it.

Maybe you could start a fantasy relationship with some fit Aussie builder or something? I've got friends over there with 20-something daughters who are my 'friends' on facebook. I could say that I've got a hot 21 year old friend looking for long-distance romance!

Please, please don't pay for him to get his teeth done.

He sounds like an ungrateful idiot, who is living the life of a sulky teenager and you have turned into his Mum. I know it must be difficult if he has a strong relationship with ds, but clearly doing everything for him isn't working, so stop it and see what happens.

You sound like a good and generous person, if I were you I would start looking after yourself.

He's Welsh??
Of the shame!!
How could he let the side down so??

What Custy said. He has been a C word and sounds like he is continuing to be one.

And what Elf said.. edit his profile if you can!! Say "Please note my profile pic is indeed me, but is very out of date.. I am now fat, bald and a complete arsehole to boot for doing the dirty on my wife and child. I obviously don't realise what I am putting at risk."

Then wait for him to find it.