My husband of 10 years announced a few weeks ago he wanted a separation. We have three children together and a house with a joint mortgage.
He said that he would look for a place to move into ASAP and found a room in shared accommodation which he could afford. He isn't working at the moment and therefore has very little money.
A couple of days ago he said that he didn't want to move into the shared accommodation and had a small flat lined up in a months time. He asked if he could stay at the house until this time which I agreed to on the basis that he helped out more with the kids especially in the evenings as he tends to go to the pub at least 4 times a week and has money to spend at the pub but has given me nothing towards mortgage and bills so I am in financial difficulty myself now.
Since asking me if he could stay another month he has spent the last two nights in the pub. I work full time and as I have arrived home this evening he has gone out. I have lost my shit and text him to not bother coming back. He has however arrived back a few hours later having been drinking and we have had a big argument and he has told me he's not going anywhere as he is entitled to be in the house as well.
I'm not sure what I can do if anything. I can't live like this though with him just taking the mickey.