I've walked away from someone 2 days ago scratching my head after 7 months of what I now realise was quite bizarre. Nothing made sense really looking back and I must have been blind for a while as I look back now and think oh dear. What an earth was that?
Basically this guy was 2 years single. You can see from his Facebook his ex holds something special to him. She's still everywhere. He said he sometimes thought about taking certain pictures of her down but they are his memories.
In the photos it seems he went away alot with her family and they were the youngest couple in the trips.
They lived in her house. He claimed to have paid for alot of things in the house and left with nothing for his efforts. He is now living in a half furbished house in a rough area. I always felt after 9 years why did he have nothing to show.
As time went on she was coming up in various ways. They were still in contact. It was weird. He would describe her as his little sister now. But I think that was an excuse. When you went in his house bits of her were everywhere. It bugged me but I hoped he would move on as we were seemingly doing great.
Fast forward a few more months and I realised he was a narcissist. I'm not the first girl who's had her heart broken by this man. He is a coward.once he's had enough he blocks and runs. Has new women to talk to in no time.
He did everything on the list
Over keen at first.
Sob stories.
Gifts.
Soulmates
Love.
Constant contact.
Making out I was the only girl he had ever felt so strongly for.
If I offered him space or an evening to chill without contact he'd flip. He was selfish. Learned he was an ex drinker. He was terrible with money. Wasn't eating properly.
Started pulling me to pieces. Putting me down in various ways Telling lies. Blaming me for every problem we had. Borrowing money. I was starting to walk on egg shells and felt I was managing him. Felt like his mother listening to his problems.
I started realising he had no family in his life. He was negative about everyone. No friends. All these women who he claimed had stalked him were victims of him and his games. It became one massive explosion of truths last week and I thought it's time to get out.
I ended it. But I am now absolutely confused about his ex. She was always lurking around like a bad smell. She knew about me. She dumped him because he was always cheating and needing her money.
How come she ended it and has remained clinging to him? Is this because he's guilt tripped her? Or has he turned horrible since loosing her?
I can see he doesn't give two hoots about me or several other women he's had 4-8 month relationships with. We clearly meant nothing despite his efforts. So what's the deal with this ex? Why does she seem to mean so much to him still? Is it possible that he loves her so painfully and he can't stand the thought of moving on as that ends them for him emotionally?
I've never come across such a weird set up between exes. Most people don't stay friends when the relationship ended on such rubbish terms. It was hardly the happy ending he claimed. It was an ending due to lies and cheating and arguments.
Anyone clued up on narcs?