Relationships

[Sonasa]

I've seen a post on here where people ask about the age gap difference between couples, but it tended to be where the woman is younger than the man. What do people think about a 15yr age gap the other way round? We are not dating, its just that I really like him and I think he may like me but I don't think he realises how old I am.

Hmm, I've dated 2 guys 15 yrs younger and it didn't last long. Different attitudes from growing up in different era's. That's a huge chunk of life's experiences that you/they can't relate to. Propensity to think you know better and slightly mother them also, lol.

I find it a bit ick to be honest, and for a full relationships those differences in age often play out in physics appearance and life stage at the younger/older. Only in “middle” age can they be unnoticeable.

Depends on your situations - do you have kids - does he have kids/want kids /career aspirations. Do you mind me asking how old you are ?

I think it depends. Do you both want/have kids and what age you are?

Depends on the age of both parties, but it's quite an age gap. I agree with pp that it's often difficult to relate as an equal with an age gap that's almost generational between you.

Well I'm currently seeing someone 15 years younger but then it's just a really casual fling so probably not the answers you are looking for.

There are things that he does occasionally that make me think god he is so young but most of the time he is mature and level headed, probably more so than me!

I think it depends on what you are after? Serious relationship/marriage? Kids? In which case I think you'll find the age gap very difficult whatever age you both are. It's a big gap in relation to where you both are in life.

I'm about to go through a divorce so what I want is casual fun and as he is early 20s that's all he is after so it's working well. It was meant to be a one night thing that has been going on for months now.

Not me, but my mum has a tendency of going for men 15-20 years younger than her. After two failed relationships and many casual dating flings it has never ended well. The breakup usually has a lot to do with differing life experiences etc

And the fact that some have been very immature which she likes to remind them of

Its actually 13yrs 11mths between us, I miscalculated. I am 54, he is nearly 41. I have 2 primary age school children. Had them late in life. He gets on with the kids great and they like him. I look in my early 40's so im told. He looks early to mid 40's. He hasn't got kids and is not bothered so he says. . I dated someone 12yrs older than me when I was in my 30's but no one seems to care when its the other way round. Its good to hear people's opinions.

I agree that it always seems acceptable when a man is with a younger woman - almost like it is a trophy status but not the other way round. I don't think your age difference is a big deal - at 41 he is a mature man and you have already had the conversation about him not wanting kids. What was his past relationship history - married living with someone ?