My lovely DH died suddenly in October last year, leaving me a widow at 36. I've come to the realisation that while I would one day love another relationship, I am nowhere near ready and I don't want to settle for anything less than the happiness DH brought me. These two things combined mean I'm likely to be single for a long time.
I don't want this to be something that fills me with despair - I know that the only way to truly have a fulfilling and happy relationship is when you're also fulfilled and happy on your own, and this is a great time for me to learn to do that. DH and our relationship were perfect but the rest of my life hugely suffered as my own anxieties meant that I poured everything into him and didn't spend any time or energy on myself. I can see how how vulnerable that left me and I don't want to make that mistake again. I also want to know that if I do meet someone, I'll be entering into a relationship with them for the right reasons, not because I'm lonely or unfulfilled, especially as I have my wonderful 3 year old DD to consider.
So. This is a very long-winded way of asking: if you're single and happy, what is it that makes you happy? Where do you find fulfillment? Is there anything you would recommend to someone in my position?