He struggles to get an erection and keep it

[Singvi]

When me and DH were ttc he struggled to keep an erection. Our DD is now 5 months old and last night we tried to have sex for the first time after giving birth. He struggled to get an erection and when he went he got soft after a few seconds. He got abit upset and kept apologising so we stopped trying and we had a cuddle and I reassured him that it's ok and he didn't need to apologise, he then got hard again which was strange but we had sex and it lasted about 5 minutes.

Has anyone got any advice or tips on how to improve this? Or has anyone experienced this?

Also just wanted to add that low dose Viagra etc might not be a great long term choice as sexual dysfunction is often symptomatic of other things, and Viagra simply allows the blood flow to the penis to be enabled but can cause some nasty side effects and doesn't treat the underlying issue which clearly sounds like it needs to be identified. It's often hard to get to the bottom of it with a GP - more progressive sexual health clinics will likely do a better job.

Never mind people asking about porn - it's really nasty. You would never get someone making sneery remarks anout female sexual performance like that. Erectile dysfunction has lots of causes, in my DH case it's physical and cannot be helped.

Yes to this. I think it was literally the first reply as well.

No-one has mentioned weight, is your DH a heavy man, or someone who weighs a lot more than when younger?