I am confused here and would like some other opinions. If an adult, over 30, is still relying on their mother to help shield them from things which they might not cope with or might ruminate over or over think would you say that there is likely to be a codependent dynamic there?
Would you say that it is not a healthy relationship, or would you say that if both adult child and parent are happy with it, it is ok?
I think that the adult child would benefit from therapy here, in relation to helping them deal with things differently, and understand healthy boundaries. Would you agree?
And lastly, I have been emotional and financially independent since I left home, after university, and I consider my relationship with my parents to be as between equal adults. Would you say that was usual, or in your experiecne is it more usual for people to remain semi dependent, and to say that they may be an adult but they remain the child in some ways, ie that is how they describe it, and that that is normal?
Someone has asked what I think about their relationship, because of some other comment I had made in a different conversation and not about them, and I am now worried about putting my foot in it. I am confused because I thought most people were like me, and I am now beginning to wonder.
Thanks very much