Dates from Hell

[Sandra15]

I've never done OLD but I had the misfortune to think I had connected with someone through (virtual) work last year and he behaved very badly.

This post is essentially copied from another thread, but it made me think about all the weirdos one meets on dates. When I was younger, I would meet lots of frogs. These include:

One turning up late repeatedly and so I went home. He phoned me in a fury blaming me for going home, saying "I was taken short".

Another one "Can I kiss you". "Do you usually go out with men?" It was like Adrian Mole.

Giving another chance to a guy who told me on Date 3 that he had been in a young offender's institution for a fight at a football match (think now there was more to it than that). He turned up with a friend and his girlfriend who was on her first date with the friend. We saw the two guys going through pockets of jackets hung up. The other girl and I went to the toilet and escaped and never saw them again.

Going on a date with a guy I met through work when I had a student job, conversation took a smutty turn I wouldn't join in with and he parked up on the way home expecting some action. Luckily he didn't push it, drove me home when I asked him to and had the cheek to say "Can I see you again on Wednesday?"

A guy turning up for first date with a box full of chocolates, wine and bath bombs. Found out he had CCJs and had headbutted his ex.

I used to blame myself for attracting these people because I thought there was something about me that sent out the wrong sort of message to them. Now I just think these chumps are everywhere. I met all of these in real life.

Any more?

Not a date as such, but a guy we used to chat to in a bar we frequented was a terrible show off and a fibber. He worked in a supermarket and said he was the manager and bragged about being on a boating holiday aged 16 with his parents and younger brother, and the rest of the family went on a walk and left him behind, the hot older married woman on the boat moored next to theirs apparently invited him round and gave him a BJ.

He used to tell us all about his Mercedes SLK. One night my friend missed the bus and he offered to give her a lift home. He did - but the SLK was in for repairs (damn) and he drove her home in a rusty old transit van.

I met a man in a takeaway after a night out (I was 23 so forgive me!) and we swapped numbers and arranged a date.

He took me to a local pub...bit of a dive, was a working mans club I think and he disappeared for a good few minutes. Next thing was I heard a booming voice...I looked up and he was onstage reading the bingo numbers out! Turned out he worked there!
I was left with loads of drunken blokes trying to talk to me before he eventually came back to me about an hour later.
Amazingly I went back to his house...but he lived with his parents who smoked weed in the kitchen and he didn't have a bed! Just a mattress on the floor!
I was an idiot and slept with him but after a smelly and uneasy night I crept out of his house in the wee small hours...there wasn't a second date!

Totally cringeworthy but still a funny story 13 years later 😂😂

I had a date with the most boring and insulting man! Why are boring people so opinionated?

He told me that only children were spoilt and didn't mix well. I said I was an only child (he knew I had a good circle of friends, had made my own way in life). And he said "exactly!"

When I'd was about 21 I had a 2nd date with a slightly odd Irish bloke, who turned out to be more odd than I first thought, he said I looked like the Madonna and he wanted to marry me. I said no gently, and that was that, I thought. He turned out to be my stalker. He followed me, my family my cousins. When I moved away to another town he tracked me down and sent me a letter (pre social media). He told people including my friends and family that I was the love of his life and I'd refused him. I still see him now but I've learnt how to keep him at a distance.

Oh, have I killed the thread? Sorry

@leekandpotsoup
Urgh stalkers had two of these - both spotted me going to the local co op and would 'appear' out of no where trying to strike a conversation. I ended up dating them - one lived opposite the co op and showed me all of these photos that he had taken of me - totally freaked me out
Still if you look like Madonna that is a massive compliment - I bet you are stunning !

Not me, but a friend of mine once went on a date with a guy who turned up with a carrier bag full of holiday photos which he then proceeded to show her

@sunrayscome it's scary when they stalk you isn't it? I'm not that good looking - he meant The Madonna😀

'The Madonna' is even more stunning than pop star Madonna I have a Madonna necklace my mother passed down to me. Yes it is scary - I was kind of flattered at first but then the thought of him taking photos of me going in and out of the co op YUCK. He had binoculars and a drone when I was sunbathing in garden. I now drive to the co op in the next village as it has put me off so much - it seems to be a location where stalkers are drawn to - probably because I go at regular times after work etc Your stalker sounds super scary too

'The Madonna' is even more stunning than pop star Madonna I have a Madonna necklace my mother passed down to me. Yes it is scary - I was kind of flattered at first but then the thought of him taking photos of me going in and out of the co op YUCK. He had binoculars and a drone when I was sunbathing in garden. I now drive to the co op in the next village as it has put me off so much - it seems to be a location where stalkers are drawn to - probably because I go at regular times after work etc Your stalker sounds super scary too

'The Madonna' is even more stunning than pop star Madonna I have a Madonna necklace my mother passed down to me. Yes it is scary - I was kind of flattered at first but then the thought of him taking photos of me going in and out of the co op YUCK. He had binoculars and a drone when I was sunbathing in garden. I now drive to the co op in the next village as it has put me off so much - it seems to be a location where stalkers are drawn to - probably because I go at regular times after work etc Your stalker sounds super scary too

@leekandpotsoup
'The Madonna' is even more stunning than pop star Madonna I have a Madonna necklace my mother passed down to me. Yes it is scary - I was kind of flattered at first but then the thought of him taking photos of me going in and out of the co op YUCK. He had binoculars and a drone when I was sunbathing in garden. I now drive to the co op in the next village as it has put me off so much - it seems to be a location where stalkers are drawn to - probably because I go at regular times after work etc Your stalker sounds super scary too

@leekandpotsoup
'The Madonna' is even more stunning than pop star Madonna I have a Madonna necklace my mother passed down to me. Yes it is scary - I was kind of flattered at first but then the thought of him taking photos of me going in and out of the co op YUCK. He had binoculars and a drone when I was sunbathing in garden. I now drive to the co op in the next village as it has put me off so much - it seems to be a location where stalkers are drawn to - probably because I go at regular times after work etc Your stalker sounds super scary too

@sunrayscome
'The Madonna' is even more stunning than pop star Madonna I have a Madonna necklace my mother passed down to me. Yes it is scary - I was kind of flattered at first but then the thought of him taking photos of me going in and out of the co op YUCK. He had binoculars and a drone when I was sunbathing in garden. I now drive to the co op in the next village as it has put me off so much - it seems to be a location where stalkers are drawn to - probably because I go at regular times after work etc Your stalker sounds super scary too

omg loads. most recent one, a date forcibly tried to kiss me in a crowded area in London Waterloo. I turned my head twice to get away from it and he pushed it on me. When I asked why he did that he seemed nonplussed. We're both in our 30s!

A few years ago I went out for a drink with a guy who spent the time as a free therapy session discussing his unhealthy coparenting relationship with his ex who would video calls him naked and walk into his house at any time of the day.

Oh how about the charity fundraiser I went to dinner with who complained about the cost of the meal, and who later told me he had kidnapped a man and held him tied up for 3 days.

Too many more to name, it's them, not us! I think they're everywhere & it's just about the level of filter we have on at that moment.

I love these threads. Make me so glad I'm single and staying that way. There's some scary people out there wondering why they are single.

And the sexual boundaries are all over the place!!!

1. Met for a drink, one hour later he looked at his watch and said he had to get home to do the ironing. 2 years later he was back on OLD and contacted me, he didn't remember me. I told him about our ironing date. Never heard from him again.
2. Very, very nervous man met for a drink at a pub. He needed to use the gents and as he got up a gnarly stick dropped out of his pocket. When he returned I gave it back to him and he said it was 'his anxiety stick'...when he was nervous he would touch the stick in his pocket to calm him down.
3. Met bloke in pub but didn't look anything like his very handsome OLD pic...it was a much younger version of himself. He sat there licking his lips and rubbing his hands up and down his thighs as I dressed up nicely. 4)This next guy chose me as I was in the identical profession and the same title as his wife who he still lived with but was separated. Her new boyfriend had sent flowers to the house and he told me before he left he sprayed undiluted bleach over them and was only with me to get back at her. I could go on....but wont....it was a very dark time in my life!!!!! hahahahahahahah

Love a good dating thread! I've had a few!

Bloke was an hour late so I sank two glasses of wine whilst waiting...he eventually rocked up and looked nothing like his photos! He had teeth like a rat and wore a brown knitted jumper (shit brown) and an orange knitted scarf. Anyway I thought I best be polite so when I went to the bar he offered me a drink "dry white wine please" he did then ask if I wanted a large ( needed to get through the date!).

Anyway he comes back and he has a pink drink with a cocktail umbrella and glacé cherry in it for him-I ask what he's drinking. Cranberry juice! Fucking cranberry juice!! I mean...

Another date met a squaddie in town one night and agreed to go out the next day. Sat having a coffee and he starts banging on about being in Iraq and how funny he found seeing all the bombed civilian homes..I was disgusted and told him so..he asked if he could see me again! Erm no!

Not a date but ended up bringing a bloke back to my friends one day when I was staying there..woke up the next morning and he had done a runner! No idea how he got out as my friend had the keys in her bag! We still laugh about it now! He was from Burnley and sounded like Peter Kay...not a sexy accent in bed as I recall..

Another friend went out with a guy who kept wanting to go to see a 'filum' and got pizza and kept going 'mmm' 'mmm' when he was eating it. He had comedy socks as well and a comedy tie, a baseball cap with a radio in and when she went round for lunch he had Mash It Up Harry by Ian Dury on repeat. I think that was the last ever date.

A guy who I'd quite fancied when we were teenagers approached me for a date years later in our 40s. We were both recently divorced.

Having agreed to go to a local Thai restaurant, he looked at the menu and told me he didn't like Thai food. In fact he was very fussy and only liked fishfingers. No idea how to behave in a restaurant - he kept asking me if he should go up and order, when it was very obvious that there were waiting staff.

He had halitosis, slagged off his ex and asked me how much I earned.

Offered me a lift home which I declined then made a lunge which I deflected before I quite literally ran away!

Went on a cringeworthy date when I was very young. When I turned up he was already wasted, he’d also conveniently ‘forgot his wallet’ and used the cash he had on him on drinks before I turned up... I was young and stupid so paid all evening even though he was an absolute tool. He kept singing songs loudly, shouting random names out as strangers passed by, pretended to be deaf a couple of times when I was mid conversation then said it was a joke. Not funny, not cute and I never saw him again thank god.

Another guy when I was slightly older really thought he was cool. He was a total hipster, much shorter and skinnier than I expected. He was older than me and I think he thought he was more cultured or at least, definitely wanted me to know how cultured he was. At one point he asked me to name countries in Asia he hadn’t visited because he’d almost visited all of them. He wasn’t thrilled when I said Iraq, Afghanistan and Syria because he actually only meant Japan, China, India and Thailand. He brought gifts for me as well and he’d actually wrapped them up which just creeped me out, he insisted I wait until I got home to open them and was certain I’d be impressed. One was a record, I’ve never owned a record player. The other was a Sylvia Plath book which I still own tbf. Never saw him again, blocked him on the way home .

I meant he’d only visited those 4 countries and think he expected me to only know those countries existed.

Also had a date where he turned up an hour late. So stupid waiting around for him in hindsight but he did text me constantly to let me know where he was and apologised a lot. He turned up hungover with a black eye under his sunglasses- cue an ‘hilarious’ story about how he got it. Date went ok actually until the end when some of his friends walked in and he invited them over to sit with us .

Got fixed up on a blind date by a colleague, with a friend of her boyfriend's. I guess she hoped we could eventually 'double date'.
He turned up at the restaurant, perfectly pleasant and friendly, but unfortunately really not attractive to me. We had a laugh over dinner and wine, and then it came to paying. I offered to go halves as I always did on dates. He adamantly refused and after a little arguing, I agreed to let him pay.
At my bus-stop, saying thanks for the evening, and goodbye, he asked me if he could give me a hug, so I said OK. Nice to ask permission. However, for some reason, he thought it appropriate to shove his hand up my jumper. He accidentally made contact with an armpit and said 'Eww! You didn't shave!' I wrestled myself out of his clutches and told him to keep his hands to himself, and that I wouldn't be seeing him again.
'But I'm coming back to yours, aren't I? I paid for dinner so now you owe me at least a shag'. Well, that sounded so very romantic to my young ear... but sadly the bus turned up and I just had time to say 'You must be joking', before disappearing without looking back. So very icky.
Poor colleague was most disgusted and embarrassed when I told her!

Just a couple that stand out. Both YEARS ago now. Talking early 20s. I had a first date arrange midweek with a local DJ, we had been flirting a while and I was very excited. Went out with my friends the weekend before and fell over breaking my wrist and splitting my chin open (which needed stitches). I was a bit worried about it so I nipped into the bar after work to see him and explain that I looked a mess so if he wanted to cancel that’s fine but he insisted I looked fine and he would be there. He never showed up!! Unbelievable! I see him every now and again when we now in our 30’s and still give him the stink eye!

The second one I was invited to the pub for a few drinks. Again midweek. I turned up and all was going fairly well, conversation flowing, until his Darts and Domminos team turned up and I then had to sit there on my own all evening watching him play a rival pub in the local tournament. He had invited me out to watch his weekly game night!! There was not a second date and he couldn’t understand why!! X