Hello mumsnetters,
A guy I used to go to school with contacted me some weeks ago and we have been messaging most days. It's been nearly 20 years since I last saw him! He initiates contact every day, if not, every couple of days. And it’s nonstop – we message all day long, he asks lots of questions, and shares a lot about his life – very intimate things too, like about his divorce few years ago, what he’s learnt in therapy about relationships, his search for jobs, family, job interviews etc. He has made a few flirty comments, such as me sorting out his garden as he’s recently moved, and how he’d be the judge of something related to my looks. We message nonstop for hours. If I don’t reply for a while, he follows up with another message to keep the conversation going. Has shared lots of photos of home, family etc.
He initially said if I were in the neighbourhood where we grew up, I should let him know if I wanted to go for a drink. First couple of weekends, I was busy. Then we talked about it, but never set a date. I started to think he wasn't bothered, but then I thought, we've had such a nice time catching up, it would be a shame not to meet. So, finally, I said come on let’s go for that drink this week, and he said this week is awesome, because he is able to finish work early. Today he followed up and asked when, and what time. So I suggested tomorrow, and a time because weather is looking dry. Then I asked if we need to make a booking, but he said we don’t need to.
I can’t judge whether he is interested in more than just friends, I guess there is no way of telling until we actually meet because we haven’t seen each other in years. I suspect he used to fancy me though, he may not now though and vice versa. But the way our meeting is being arranged, it doesn’t feel like a ‘date’.
I know I am overthinking, just wanted to get this off my chest and share my nervousness about meeting!
It's been such a long time since I've dated, and he seems so nice.