I suppose i am looking for some support for getting over a man/ getting him out of my head/ no contact. I will be brief…
Was seeing him of and off last year but did no contact for 3 months from Nov to Feb during lockdown as there was some uncertainly and distrust between us. He would occasionally text me saying he missed me etc. In a moment of weakness in Feb I texted him and he made it clear he wanted to get back together. He told me he loved me. I was uncertain and refused but stupidly I did continue texting him and all the things i liked about him remained. I instigated a meet up with him last week to see how i felt.
It was lovely to see him after but told me that he has started to see someone he has met online - early days - around a month. He says he loves me but he and this woman have hit it off and he wants to give it a go with her. He said he felt sad and confused -we had a couple of false starts last year for various reasons and he can’t be sure that it won’t go that again I suppose we are drawn to each other and we did kiss lot, so yes it could be argued that he is not committed this other woman and keeping his options open. I did point this out to him too.
Since the meeting last week, we have texted and yes i am suppose I am trying to maintain contact. I am aware i sound pathetic, clinging on when he has made his choice with this other woman. He does text and says he thinks about me too
I feel rejected, regretful and quietly devastated. I thought he would wait for me. I try to focus on the reasons why I did no contact during lockdown and there other issues between us. I don’t blame him as he made he clear that he wanted to be with me so I would have gone off looking for someone else too. How do I move forward? How I stop him being in my head?