Has anyone given up?

[Pikabee]

Online dating or dating in general. I just cannot be arsed. One year I've been online and ive had the following
One crap shag
A few ok dates
Thousands of ghosting and men who arrange dates then ghost which is annoying
Abuse for being a single parent
A man who send me naked videos of his toddler daughter

Without being up my own arse I'm fairly attractive
, got my own house and a good job. I'm just so bored by it and luckily I like my own company

@Isitreallyme77

To be honest a dick pic is the least of it and pretty inoffensive(after all it's nothing I haven't seen before I just don't usually get a photo), I was offered money by one guy if I slept with him, another was wanking on a video call (I won't do video calls now) and when I realised what he was doing I went to end it and all he said was "I haven't finished yet"! So if I'm not too bothered about a dick pic it's because I've had worse, and that was all in the past 6 months of OLD.

Jesus Christ I would rather stay in with my granddad than tolerate any of that lot.

I've pretty much given up with OLD. I'm still waiting for the day that I meet a man in real life. Although that's tough considering I work in a small office with a married man and then come home to my house!

@Sandra15
It does indeed take 2 to tango, but when one of the partner’s is so passive you can hardly get a word out them it’s terrible, thought it was just nervous or maybe was me, but same thing happened 2nd time as well,, maybe she just didn’t like me, 🤷🏼‍♂️

There are definitely some odd men out there. Some pitifully easy to see through looking for money or care in their old age. Several must have had very hard lives as they look about 10 years older than they claim to be.
First messages proclaiming undying love ...
Photos with carp, grandchildren, sunglasses and masks (I expect their wives would still recognise them!)
It’s hard work sifting through all the nonsense!

I did OLD for a few years. On and off. You have to have breaks

I had all the same experiences as you (not the toddler video) but the endless ghosting, them wanting random hook ups. Dick pics

The ones who just want to text for months but not meet. The ones who pull out of dates last min and you never hear from them again

The ones who have also dated your friends

The ones who have photos about 20 years old

I met my partner online. Seven years together now

I'd say it took about 3 years to get there. Have faith, keep going

Recently I got a new iPhone (numbers previously blocked are no longer blocked I have now learned)

Within 24 hours I had a random WhatsApp message from a bloke with quite an unusual name. I vaguely recognised it from years ago (7-8 years at least) when I was doing online dating. Never met him though.

Oh Hi, Fi; how are you? You just popped up on my phone again. I remember you because you have the same name as my sister. What's been happening? How do we know each other?

Blocked

I agree OP. I feel similarly, I'm a single mum, with a reasonable job, home, I'm ok looking (I hope!). I've been on and off OLD for several years. In that time I've had quite a few dates, a couple of 'relationships' which never worked properly, as each time the man was bullshitting about his availability. One hadn't finalised his divorce and was practically destitute without his soon to be ex wife, just on an ego boost dating. The other was so entwined with his exwife he refused to even tell her about his new girlfriend, just future faked me for years.

It's sad really. I can understand giving up.

It can be so shit. I was on and off proper sites, just not ready really. I don't think I ghosted anyone but I pulled out of a few chats quie abruptly. So I'm sure I was somebody's nightmare.

It then worked out, really suddenly. When it does that it seems simple. I do think I was simply ready for it to work plus lucky. We'll see how this goes though.

@Sally2791 Photos with carp, grandchildren, sunglasses and masks (I expect their wives would still recognise them!)

Masks? Is this coronavirus masks or something more sinister?! I almost dare not ask ........

@Sandra15

I hope you reported the naked video bloke to the police.

This

@Sandra15 Corona masks- but hardly necessary/helpful for a dating site photo!

Omg man who sent me videos of his toddler found me on another site asking to take me out. Eurghhhhhh

Met my husband OLD. Chatted for a few weeks and then met and had a brilliant connection. Fell hard very quickly and 12 years on married and very loved up. I had a few crap dates before him, crap sex, ghosting, I had some stories to tell, some laughs, dick pics, etc. My message is a bit like the mystery house on Escape to the Country! I had a clear idea of what I wanted but actually decided to meet up with somebody that wasn’t quite the criteria in my head and wham that was it! I suppose I’m saying try somebody that you might not think you want and don’t give up x

Hi Everyone, 27 years old and been single for two years (not been with anyone) even though I'm a bloke I don't do ONS as I have traditional values, tbh missing the intimacy that goes with Dating/Relationships happy to date anyone with kids and I don't mind dating someone older 27-40.

Hope I don't sound desperate (just seeing if anyone is in the same boat as me and wants to date? x