Am I over reacting?

[drevan]

I've had a sickness bug since last week. Today is the first day that I've felt nearly back to normal.

I'm sitting watching TV with DP, who is non stop farting. I don't say anything until they start smelling awful. I wasn't rude, just said that if they carry on smelling like that all evening then I'll sleep in the spare room tonight.

DP initially thought I was joking, but when I said I wasn't, the smell was making me feel nauseous again, he gets really cross, tells me that I'm pathetic, being dramatic and acting like a bloody baby.

Now I know this on its own doesn't seem like a big issue, but this sort of thing is becoming quite common.

I just don't see the big deal in sleeping in the spare room for one night if the smell coming from him is making me feel queasy again, but was I overreacting?

Ugh that's gross. Tell him to pack it in.

Perhaps he is suffering the same sickness bug as you but it is manifesting itself in extra wind rather than vomiting?

It's still disgusting though. He should go to to the toilet to fart instead of stinking the place out.

Context is everything. It sounds like this is about more than the farting. In the one circumstance you have given, I think you might be a little insensitive. He is clearly having digestive issues.

I wasn't rude, just said that if they carry on smelling like that all evening then I'll sleep in the spare room tonight.

This is quite an extreme reaction to him farting. You could have asked him to stop, or to move, or to go to the bathroom, open a window even. Jumping to sleeping in the spare room does seem slightly dramatic for the situation.

My DP can drop his handbag something terrible. Honestly. It's made me boak a few times. However, whilst he can't help the smell that comes with the blow he always leaves the room then sprays if necessary

My DP can drop his handbag something terrible. Honestly. It's made me boak a few times. However, whilst he can't help the smell that comes with the blow he always leaves the room then sprays if necessary

Seen a few of these 'OH farting' threads and I just don't understand... even if you weren't feeling as ill as you are now, why does he fart openly in your presence?
I don't think I'm precious in anyway to be honest, but if my DS or BF or ANYONE farted openly in front of me I'd lose my shit. Go to the bloody bathroom!!!... there's literally gas particles leaking out of your arse hole and I don't want to bloody well be breathing it in!!!
Sorry for my rant but I just don't understand people who fart openly and unashamedly... your DH is being a knob in this situation.

@flashylamp I asked him to do all those things first and he refused.

[quote drevan]@flashylamp I asked him to do all those things first and he refused. [/quote]

Context and all that.

He was the one overreacting. Is he often like that?

To me it sounds like he’s reacted like this because he might be embarrassed that you reacted the way you did. Is it something he does a lot usually? Definitely have a chat with him about how he spoke to you. He will probably realise he overreacted and will hopefully see why it was bothering you.

This proper made me laugh! Nothing worse than feeling sick already and then partner farting and it stinks. Definitely get him to sleep in spare bedroom and you enjoy your bed to yourself! Hope you feel better soon!

I'd have said he would be sleeping in the spare room. He's producing the smell and he must be able to smell it himself. Why is it okay for him to keep doing it close to you when it's that bad and not consider you having to put up with it?

@Wearywithteens

“I don't think I'm precious in anyway to be honest, but if my DS or BF or ANYONE farted openly in front of me I'd lose my shit.”

You are precious - farting is a natural bodily function. I have IBS and if my family had sent me out of the room every time I may as well set up camp and live in the bathroom.

I'm sorry that you feel that way, I also have IBS, as does my Mum and I have a sister with Crohn's and we still managed to keep our leaking gasses private though 🤷‍♀️ If it's an accidental fart then absolutely no problem... but if it's intentional, regular and the person just couldn't care less about the air everyone else has to breath then yes... I have an issue with that

@Wearywithteens

“I don't think I'm precious in anyway to be honest, but if my DS or BF or ANYONE farted openly in front of me I'd lose my shit.”

You are precious - farting is a natural bodily function. I have IBS and if my family had sent me out of the room every time I may as well set up camp and live in the bathroom.

BTW... urinating and defecating are also natural bodily functions but I wouldn't do those in front of anyone either 🙄