There was an identical thread the other day, so I’m going to copy and paste what I said then. You asked for honesty so I’m going to give it to you, instead of telling you you’ve got ages yet and not to worry, okay?
You still have time, but you have to crack on and be deliberate about it imo. The right partner isn’t going to necessarily drop into your lap, and at 33 if you still need the time to date, find someone, see them for a while, get serious and then try for a baby (which can take time or involve losses) then you have a better chance by being proactive and intentional.
It’s obviously possible but I wouldn’t be happy to sit back and wait and see either.
My advice is to use online dating sites, meet a lot of people, and be upfront within the first couple of dates that you’re only interested in a relationship that will lead to marriage and children within a couple of years, make sure you don’t get sucked into long term dating with no end in sight or tie yourself to someone who wants different things just because you get along and fancy each other. The guys who are also ready for that will find it music to their ears, and the ones who aren’t will run a mile which is what you want.
I was in a similar position at 28 and that’s what I did. Told DH on our second date I was ready for kids and planned on having them within a few years and would only consider a relationship with someone who wanted the same things as me. I think if you’re not fussed about kids or you’re younger it’s fine to have relationships for the sake of enjoying yourself but once you get a bit older and know what you want it’s better to remain single and available than to end up in something with an expiration date.
Never be afraid to take ownership of what you want. I found it was helpful mentally to look into whether I’d consider solo parenting and explore those options too as it took away a lot of the panic around ‘what if I don’t meet anyone in time?’. I don’t think I’d have ended up doing that ultimately for various reasons but it did help me to be very selective when dating as it meant I wasn’t happy with just any random person who wanted a baby, it had to be someone who really impressed me for it to be worth getting serious.
If you want kids then your fertility and fertile years are a very precious thing and something you should value highly and guard and not waste on just anyone.
It’d be easy to sit and say ‘ah don’t worry you’re young you’ve got ages!’ but at 33 a solid eighteen childbearing years are behind you and you don’t have as many ahead of you. It’s a popular idea that kids and a happy relationship just happen to you and fall into your lap but they don’t always so you should feel zero shame in deliberately setting out to find that.