Don't know whether to be amused or upset

[BleddyHell]

Flicking through Facebook (I know, I know, work of the devil!) yesterday and I had a realisation that I hadn't seen anything from my sister for a while. Started looking around and found she'd deleted and blocked me 😳 along with my nephew (he's only 11 and ASD so it would have been her who did it) and BIL.

A bit of background, for context: my family is very dysfunctional, at best, and I am very much the outcast. I was NC for 7 years and then saw my mother at a function where she met my 18 month old for the 1st time and I felt I was unfair he didn't have much family so kept in contact but moved to a different county.

2 months ago my biological dad died from covid. As he is also my sisters dad, although she has had NC for a very long time, I phoned whilst he was on itu to let her know how ill he was. She reacted as I thought, said she wasn't fussed and said she didn't want to know if he died as it wouldn't have any impact on her life. Fair enough, I respected that, and didn't tell her (it was only 4 days later). I haven't heard a thing since that call, not a bloody thing.

I've also not heard a thing from my mum, not a message to ask if I'm OK (I was with him when he passed, I am devastated) or anything. There is so much history between my mother and I, especially the past couple of years, but I won't go into it unless specifically asked as I'm aware that it would make the post very long and probably very boring. Due to increased feelings of inadequacy within the family I decided a couple of weeks ago to just fade away, I've not made a song and dance about it and the only person I told is my husband. I'm guessing this is the reason why my sister has done what she's done but it's all a bit...weird. My sister always talks ill of mother and says she really dislikes her, it's all a bit 2 faced (if that is the reason)

Not really sure of the point of this post in all honesty, I think I just needed to get it put there. I'm not sure how I feel about it in all honesty.

What do you all think? Try to make contact and ask why? Or just leave it?

Sorry, just to make it clear, I have faded away from my mother and thought I had a good relationship with my sister so was going to stay in contact

Continue to fade away, it sounds as though your little family is perfect as it is.

I've just found the stately homes thread, maybe this might be better on there 😔

Aww I’m sorry, they sound toxic, sending you a big hug.

If you want answers then ask them but be prepared, by the sounds of it they might say something to try and hurt you. You’re grieving and maybe a bit vulnerable atm if they get nasty.

Do you have support? Your husband and friends?

Families can be weird, don’t let this get you down, like you said they are dysfunctional, this is their problem, not yours.

Would love to know what was said above, come back and let me know!