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Motherofking · 09/05/2021 04:51

Im really starting to feel dissatisfied in my relationship . I don't know if this is normal . Ever since I had our baby nearly a year ago my whole life has been devoted to raising our son and revolved around house hold things like cooking and cleaning etc. Ive made alot of sacrifices and feel like I don't get anything in return. A few months ago on my birthday he didn't bother to get me anything. Whereas months prior on his birthday I bought him jumpers and other things he needed plus made sure to get him a card . Anyways on my birthday I even went to go buy Myself a card and told him to write me a message in it all because I was desperate and wanted to feel appreciated. All he did was write 'happy birthday '. I still feel like an idiot . A month after on Valentine's Day he didn't bother getting me flowers even though I did mention I wanted them. Anyways fast forward now he continues to reject me sexually. It's gotten to the point whereby I feel embarrassed. It would just feel like to get some attention or feel appreciated because of all the effort and time I spend on our household and family . This just seems to be a relationship whereby I'm doing all the sacrifices and the giving and all he's doing it benefiting without putting in any effort

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Inthesameboatatmo · 09/05/2021 05:39

That's not on and will suck all your self worth and energy, my ex husband never got me a card or presents in the last 15 years we were married, it doesn't make you feel great that they give so little a shit.
Get out while you can is all I can say .

Alonelonelylonersbadidea · 09/05/2021 07:09

Seriously, he knows, you've told him it all makes you feel lousy, and he still is doing it. LTB.

It's unfair and you deserve to feel loved, have great sex, be appreciated and listened to. Shame on him.

I suffered this for years. I left and I wish I'd left sooner.

DinosaurDiana · 09/05/2021 07:14

Have you asked him why he has changed ?
You could say that he now sees you as a ‘mother’ figure, and not as a sexy lover. You could suggest that he’s getting what he needs elsewhere. You need to find out what’s going on and what he does/doesn’t want to do about it.
Are you married ?
Do you have a job ?
Do you have family/friends nearby to support you ?

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