Partner and Coke!

[15HLMC]

Hey...

So we've been together for 9 years and share a DD. We've had so many problems over the years, constant lies, cheating, and even now when he's had too much to drink he sends messages to random girls on FB telling them their attractive. I have left SO many times and don't ask me what makes me come back? The classic... he isn't all bad? (I know....! - pathetic) he now gives 'his' teenage children the green light to smoke weed, although I forbid it from the house and of course anywhere near my DD but you get my point. I now have my suspicions that he's dealing coke, again! This was one of many reasons why I've left before. I'm so sick of the false promises etc - he is a pathological liar and does not care about me one bit! I'm early 30's and just want to be in a partnership where there is respect. I also would love another child and so I worry I'm running out of time for all of this. Feeling stuck to be honest. It's also his house so I'd have to go back to my mums and start again. I know I'm lucky to have that option but at 33 I just never expected to be in this position and it's all such a hard pill to swallow.

Any advice would be grateful appreciated.

TIA xx

Have a look at how coke is produced.
Inform yourself and your teen(s) about the crimes against human beings of all ages commited from production to distrubution.
He is part of this. Use your brain to think not your ovaries.

Go back to your mums and start again

Go back to your Mums and start again

No other advice, he’s a loser

Get. The. Hell. Out.

That's it.

Jesus Christ.

Leave. Build your own life that isn’t full of lies,cheating and drugs.
Aim for better than not completely bad.

It definitely sounds like you know the best thing for you and your children! Coke ruins lives, not only the ones of those who take it. You have gave him so many chances and he doesn’t respect you to try harder. Cheating etc is ridiculous you deserve so much better. You are still young you have plenty of time to still have another child with someone. Don’t stay with him just for that x

Swallow the bitter pill and leave. The fact that another child with this arsewipe may even be a consideration suggests you have to some work on yourself.

Go to your mum's and save a deposit to rent, being a lodger works out cheaper than renting alone. Don't waste another day with him.

The advice is to leave and stay away. You're early 30s - you're YOUNG. Do the Freedom Programme first though, so that you learn to protect yourself from falling for losers.

He’s not going to change and you know that. No more chances. Go back to your mum’s.

FFS OP what kind of environment is this for a little girl? Her dad is a loser drug dealer who lets his children smoke weed (which can trigger mental illness). What kind of dad is that? You need to give yourself a shake and move out.

Have you had any advice from anywhere eg CABx or Shelter, the council or the money advice service? If not, I suggest you phone the council housing department and tell them you're going to be homeless and have a daughter. Phone Shelter before you do that to find out what your rights are.

What makes you keep going back is that you're a half wit OP, it's not more complicated than that. Get out for the sake of your daughter, this is no life.

I also would love another child and so I worry I'm running out of time for all of this.

Stop focusing on what you want and start focusing on the responsibilities you have.

You have already chosen to have a child with a drug taking, drug using, cheating, disrespectful man who doesn't respect you and has no sense of parental responsibility. I'm sorry but that's a selfish thing to have done, but it's done now.

Letting the fact you want another child influence your decision would be even more selfish.

Put your child first, someone needs to.

Don't waste your life with this loser. You're still young. The longer you stay, the more likely it is that your daughter will end up in a relationship with a man like this.

What would you tell her to do? Do that.

Advice? Leave.