People who have night shift partners and DC….

[Frankiethebubblefish]

How do you do it? DH sleeps everyday including day off for obvious reasons. I’m getting to a point where I wish I was ill so I didn’t have to do the days for a break.

DH works six nights a week, I work days with DC who’s 3. This is a straw that broke the camels back moment I think. DC has just found their not apparently well hidden birthday present, I’m just crying as I can’t find the energy to stop them.

For those who’ll say you had DC with DH working nights, yes I did. However, the difference between knowing and living the reality is worlds apart.

Don’t know what I’m looking for really, it is what is, I just feel like a shite mother at the moment.

most of the parents I have known that did night shifts, didnt sleep all day. If someone is going to sleep the entire day, then thats not fair on you.

I have this - DH has done a mixture of earlier / lates and nights.
When the DC were little it was a nightmare keeping them quiet or leaving the house when didn't want to!
Now they are teens and still having to keep them quiet 🤫

Have you spoken to your work about flexing hours whilst you do full time childcare and work? Is that possible?
It's tough but the best thing for you is to break away when possible, even if it means missing out on the couple of hours when you would see eachother as a family. Let him take little one and go for a walk/have a bath/whatever you can to unwind and reset.