This may be a bit rambling so apologies in advance.
I'm struggling and thought I wanted to leave but maybe I'm being unfair. He says he loves me, dosnt want to loose me and will do anything. I'm confused and he is trying hard but I seems to not been engaging.
Main issues are :
1)his self employment. He works 7 days a week unless he has his dsc.
2)he spends zero quality time with our dc unless dsc are here. I'm really worried this will breed resentment. No parks, no activities, no nothing with dc.
3) money. He has no pension. No life insurance and earns little for his hours. I don't earn a fortune but am comfortableand it's a lot of pressure to be the breadwinner and I m worried about retirement, which is 20 plus years away at least but still.
4)sex life. He's unhappy with it. I am exhausted, I work full time and have a toddler rest of the time, I'm flat exhausted.
5)housework. He is tidier than me but dosnt clean, he tidies if that makes sense. He's washing up more to help me and thinks he does his share as I don't wash up as often. I hoover, clean bathroom, dust, garden, mop floors,, washing, DIY, organise school/dr/swimming etc for us n ds.
He says he will work less but in same breath says buisness will fail if he does. So that makes me uncomfortable as I don't want him blaming us if it does. He is making an effort honestly but I'm just worn down from last year or two.
He says all he wants if for me to be happy and that would fix things. He says I'm tierd and grumpy all the time which to be fair I probably but I struggle with being tolerant when I've been up since 5am.
On the plus side dp does nursery runs for youngest which helps with my work etc and I do appreciate his flexibility.
Something has to change and I have to engage properly for it to work and I've suggested couseeling to help us but hethinks we don't need it as I just need to be happier.
Any obvious suggestions I have not thought of to try?