Am I overthinking this??

[Blossoms21]

So earlier today myself, dp and two ds were out shopping when my brother was near by needing a lift home, we moved car seats etc to make a bit of space and I said to dp oh I'll just go in the back with the kids and he says yous all won't fit in the back but if I didn't go in the back then my brother would've had to have sat in the back with them.
So was he having a dig at my weight/size? Or am I just overthinking this completely?

It sounds to me like you're overthinking it, but I don't know your DH or the size of you or your brother or how big your car is

No one on here can possibly know that without context. Are you overweight? Has he made comments before? Is your brother smaller?

To be honest I would just assume he was just meaning you'd be uncomfortable and as your brother was the one benefitting from the lift he should sit in the back. But then only you know what your partners like but I wouldn't automatically assume it was a dig at your size no, unless you've had issues what that before

It's impossible to say.

Do you fit comfortably in the back?

Did he maybe just not think properly and was assuming your bro would be sitting in the back and then think you meant you’d also be sat in the back ?

Or as above thinking it not be comfortable for you but ok for your brother as he grateful for the lift sort of thing

Unless he has form for saying mean things then yes I’d say you are overthinking it

I don't know how big or small you are but it sounds like a more practical comment than anything. Car seats don't leave much space in-between! I'm a very small size 8 and I end up with my hips jammed into them and it's bloody uncomfortable in the back. You're overthinking, I think, unless he has form for making digs about your size.

I'd go with overthinking, it sounded more as if he was meaning you wouldn't be comfortable, your comfort is more important than the brother's. I really wouldn't read anything sinister into that at all

Are you smaller than your brother?