Pity for being single

[Happycat1212]

Does anyone else get pity/sympathy for being single? I’ve had a lot of pitying comments from friends/family, even my ex. I don’t know why people feel so sorry for single people, I never mention being sad about it btw so it’s not that. Has anyone else noticed this?

I have, and also the "but you're pretty" from friends. I know they mean well, but tbh I sort of end up looking down on them for it for a while because they must genuinely think being coupled is evidence you are pretty/ good company/ a nice person. As much as I hate pity I'd hate so much for my self esteem to be hanging on my relationship status.

Yup! Grinds my gears! I also get “I’d go out with you if I was single”

I used to have these comments when I was single in my 20s, 30s and 40s. Wait until you are in your 50s then you are looked at with jealousy and spoken to as if you are the luckiest woman alive. These comments are from those people you have mentioned that took pity on you and now they are with their boring, abusive, mundane husbands of decades and the women are desperate for their own homes, lives and control of the tv!

It’s so annoying! Glad it’s not just me then, I’m 32 so still got a while to go before it stops then. The worst is they genuinely feel sorry for you “being all alone” as if you are not complete without a partner

Yes I get this a lot. Its worse because I'm dating but not with a view to getting into a relationship. So often if I say that I've been on a date or am dating well meaning people will say 'oh hopefully this person will be the one and you can stop looking!'. I'm not even looking for the one and don't want a relationship.

Ewww how annoying. Just emphatically tell them that you enjoy being single and are not looking to get into a relationship (unless you meet someone very special)

I'm the same age and single too... When they start saying the "but your so pretty" angle, I just say "I know, do you not think if I wanted to be with a man I would be". That shuts them up

I’m a single mum so I’m not sure why they think I should rush into another relationship (been single 4 years) I’m sure the same people saying it would be judging if I did!