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Friendships changed since pregnancy and becoming a parent...

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C4SKI · 07/05/2021 16:56

I don’t know how normal this is but I found that some of my closest friendships changed when I became pregnant. I’ll admit I became a little more sensitive, but I felt like the friendship/support and general vibe of a couple of my closest friends changed during this time and hasn’t repaired since becoming a parent. They have kids of their own so it’s not necessarily that our circumstances are too different. I just find that I’m less tolerant and more protective of myself and my life perhaps? Also I feel like they’re used to me being in a certain type of box and now my box is the same as theirs maybe it’s grating for them...who knows. I don’t think the pandemic has helped either. Has anyone else experienced friendships differently since pregnancy or becoming a parent? It leaves me feeling a bit lost as I also feel a bit reserved about meeting new ‘mum’ friends - I’ve so far found them to be a bit ‘been there done that’ and dare I say it competitive?! I feel like my capacity for friendships has been bruised. Anyone relate/can advise?

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DiscoGlitterBall · 07/05/2021 19:58

Yep, totally. Mine is 6 now and I look back and barely see my pre child friends, makes me sad but life changes and things move on. I’m sure I changed when I had my lo.

I have met some lovely people through having a child and formed some fab relationships but it’s weird that they have never known me without a child!

You’ll find you’re people, I’ve come across the competitive parenting and cannot be arsed with it so tend not to stick around those people as it is hard work and demoralising in equal measure!

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