Has anyone met up with an ex a while after the break up to let them know exactly the hurt they have caused?

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I am nearly a year down the line from separating from my husband.
He out of the blue said he didn’t love me and wanted to separate, pulled the rug from under me completely leaving me with our 2 toddlers. Turned out he had been having an affair with numerous women, this discovery of the man he really is floored me and continues to.
He has the children for 2 overnights a week, I can’t bear the sight of him. He wants us to be amicable and while I am civil, I do not want to be friends with him.
I am still so hurt by his actions and I feel that he has in ways ruined my life.
I don’t expect to ever get any answers from him but I would love to sit down with him and tell him exactly the hurt he has caused me and that I’m not healed and may never be. I feel he needs to know what he has done.
Maybe it’s me being totally ridiculous to even think this is a good idea but I really can’t move past all the things he said/did. During the breakup he refused to even talk about it. I would imagine if I asked he would agree to meet but I wouldn’t be so silly as to expect any answers but I just want him to know

It's true what people say that the best revenge is to show You're doing well and you don't need them. Concentrate on yourself

He knows. He knew the impact his actions would have on you before he cheated but did it anyway. Multiple times too.

He’s well aware - he just doesn’t care about you or your feelings. Therefore telling him how much he hurt you is pointless. He likely won’t apologise, and if he does there’s no guarantee that it would be sincere vs him just saying anything to end the conversation

You won’t get closure.

He has to justify his behaviour to himself so he will blame everyone and everything except himself .