I am looking for advice.
My XH and I agreed we would do a 2yrs separation divorce, however, since he has been with his new partner he has become very difficult and has applied for the divorce, put rubbish in his statement, which although upsetting, because it is nonsense, I have decided it is best to ignore it.
My main concern is my 2 girls.
He is an ex alcoholic, I stayed with him and helped get him sober, and left after 2 yrs of him being sober, I wanted to make sure that he was fit and well to be able to still have contact with the children, so that he still had a career. our marriage was clearly over, but having been through hell with my parents separation, I wanted this one to be less damaging for our own kids.
2yrs down the line,
I've had to call the police, although i stupidly asked them to just spk to him rather than actually caution him.
He has lied to social services about his drinking, which concerns me massively.
The girls hate going to his,they are very unhappy there, but he is insisting on having them almost 50/50, even though he is barely there, and when he is, all he does is play video games.
He pulled out of the 1st lot of mediation, so i gave him a cooling off period as he said he was too stressed. we have agreed to attend again, so i have done the initial meeting again, and am due to do our 1st joint session next tuesday. He refuses to discuss finances at all, and I am lucky to get him to discuss the kids at mediation, if he turns up.
I have just had notice that he has already applied for the decree nisi, which will be declared next weds. I am now extremely worried that he is trying to steamroll through this divorce without consulting me at all.
Because i never properly reported him, i am now unable to claim legal aid. I am thining that i need to get a child arrangements order and financial order, but i dont know how i will afford a solicitor, or if i even have time now.
I am so overwhelmed by everything, I find it all so confusing.
I am now a SAHM due to having a disability that I can no longer work. He pays the minimum allowance, and has now moved into a massively overpriced house just behind my new house, in a new town. He must have had inheritance money, as he certainly could not afford it with the 50% share he got from our marital home.
He literally took half of everything, he took our bed, I had to sleep on the floor, he took the tv, he took the tumble dryer and half the plates and cutlery. what a d@@k.
I caved and let him take 50% of the house share, and im worried he is now walking over me again and taking advantaage of my disposition and lack of family support.
I am now a mum to 4 children (my partner has 2boys).
Ive just struggled through lockdown, now this.
My solicitor cant fit me in until a week after the decree nisi is issued, will this affect my ability to put in the relevant orders?