proposals and 3 year point

[Silverstrands]

So I don’t actually want to get married yet, for a number of reasons but I would like to get engaged. We have been together 3 years.
The problem is, early on, I told him that I didn’t want to get married and that I felt getting engaged and having a long engagement was ridiculous.
This was when I met him, in the middle of a really awful divorce. Sooo, 3 years later, I’m still not fussed on marriage but have warmed to the idea of it in a few years maybe when our children are adults and would like to be engaged some time in the next 12 months (but do want a romantic proposal including all of our children)
So seeing as I totally put him off, what’s the chances of a surprise romantic proposal? If I hint, and by hint he would need an 8ft sign blocking the front door, with the words, she wants this engagement ring written on it-then it wouldn’t be a surprise.
I could propose myself as that’s what I kind of did did with exh but I wanted something different this time

Also, having all your children involved doesn't make it romantic it makes it a performance.

Just talk to him!
Why is that so hard? if you cant actually communicate what you want nad feel, it’s not much of a relationship is it.

Have you an idea what his views of remarriage are generally? And then to you specifically?

What are current the joint life/relationship goals have you discussed together?

Assuming your DCs are teens - then this proposal performance idea would be excruciating for them.

A big flashy proposal for a second marriage is just cringeworthy imo, bad enough for a first one let alone subsequent events.

I’d tell my son to run a mile from anyone wanting this kind of proposal and ring choice. Marriage is about committment to the vows not the SM pictures.

Bin off the daft idea of romantic proposals including your children and just have a grown up conversation with him about it

Jesus you're hard work. Just tell him. He can't read your mind. This post is ridiculous. Not once in your OP did you mention what he wants or wanted. Do you even care? You're coming across very self absorbed.