How to deal with infatuation...I think I’m going mad

[Anothernamebitesthedust]

Just that. I’ve fallen hopelessly in infatuation with a guy at work. We’ve never even met in person but can’t get him out of mind and it’s just exhausting. The ups and downs and anxiety of it all.

I’ve got not real reason to think it’s reciprocated. We get on well and he has suggested a coffee when we’re all back in the office for a meeting in a few weeks, but could be entirely platonic. Either way, I am unhappily married and know this is probably just a distraction...but also feel like I suddenly can’t act on unhappy marriage as this is totally colouring my view of everything.

I’ve turned into a pathetic teenager. What to do?!

Just wait it out, it will go away. Dare I also say, enjoy it? Don't act on it at all, no o e need ever know, and you wont go through it often and it will be passed through soon, never to return.

I think if you are either miserably single or unhappily married (though the unhappy part is an issue in itself) Then it’s easy to take an interest in something new and exciting. It will go away if you just tell yourself that it probably wouldn’t be as exciting as what you might be envisioning. Nothing good will come from acting on it, it will just complicate things. Those initial teenage crush feelings don’t last very long anyway as nice as it might feel at the time so it will pass if you just focus on the work and not him haha

I think when you in an unhappy relationship and someone kind comes along and shows you what you are missing, you can be suddenly romantically inclined toward that person and get all giddy about it and it feels lovely.
It isn't real though and is only a symptom of what is wrong and what you could have if you were happy.
Think about your marriage and how to put things right even if it means ending it as life isn't meant to be sad