Me and my Husband has just moved into a new home it's quite a grand place and in the middle of nowhere and we only live a stone throw from Mil which in the beginning I was happy about but now I'm starting to regret it . I've not know mil for years as this is both our second marriage so I'm not close to her at all ! I've always found she has answer for everything or acts like a know it all or wants to be in the thick of it all !
When we first told her we brought this house the MIL started doing walks with friends and walking past the house and saying this is my sons house kind of showing off in a way and then when she saw the person who was then the seller of the house she made sure she went up to them telling them her son was buying this house and then acting to us as she is on first names terms with these ppl !
I understand she is proud of her son but I'm quite a private person and I felt telling ppl we didn't know were we was going to be living there was not on really !
Fast Forward to day we moved in she just could not wait in a over the top way to come and help us she just walk in and started to unpack boxes asking me were I wanted everything she just didn't give you a chance to even put the boxes down and I didn't like it that she started opening boxes without asking first and to be honest she was not very helpful !
It was then I felt she is just a very nosey person not something I noticed before !
We are now a couple of weeks into us settling in when she first come round she went straight into my kitchen and started helping herself to tea and making it for everyone else instead of waiting for me to offer to make the tea I just hated the fact she started opening and going in my cupboards like she thinks she has a right to
I've had a word with hubby and we end up having a argument as he says I'm over reacting and she is excited that we now live near her and all she is doing is being helpful and wants to help which I don't want or we don't need either as there is nothing she can do anyway she is elderly
Yesterday she turns up at our house with food for hubby in a box from her own house ( btw we are in our 50s I was not meant to be there but I'd made sure there was lots of food in as I did a huge shop in the morning as going away for the night / day ) but then starts helping herself to pot and pans and going through my draws and cupboards starts helping herself and don't know how to use cooker ! I left them to it !
But then found out she had offered to make dinner for him round her house but he said come to our with a plate of food but it ended up with her coming to make food for him and FIL as well !
It just really made me annoyed and my hubby knew I was not happy and I think MiL knew I was not happy either.
So how do I stop her doing this in the future without falling out with her ! and it not happening again I feel she is overriding me and coming in and being quite disrespectful to my space by thinking she can walk in and do as she likes and i just don't like it I feel it's very intrusive !
I would never dream of just walking into her house and start helping myself to cups of tea and by opening all her cupboards ect I would always ask for something and wait to be asked for a cup of tea it's just general manners !
I may be overreacting and you might be thinking it's not a big deal like my hubby says but I don't think I am! I'd be interested to know views maybe I come from a family thats just don't have these values and I just don't want to keep having arguments with hubby over mil .