Is your partner who you expected to end up with?

[orzo15]

Just out of curiosity really, was having a chat with a friend about who we both picture each other with. And it made me wonder if most people end up with the type of person they had in mind?

Nah. I didn’t think I’d bag someone like DH tbh!

No, I had a bad childhood and bad parents and I never dreamed that a man could be this amazing tbh. Always had such a low bar until I met him

@ChameleonKola

Nah. I didn’t think I’d bag someone like DH tbh!

Pretty much my sentiments

Interestingly all of my exes had blue eyes - I love big blue eyes and dark hair, DH has the biggest brown eyes and I love them!

I dreamt growing up of a tall dark slender but muscular man who was suave and had a career in design and was in touch with his feminine side and spiritual (not religious)

I met someone who was a bit tubby, interested in money only, and I’ve no idea what I saw in him.

We broke up years ago and someone matching the description above walked into a room I was in and looked straight into my soul and it was love at first sight

I expected to end up with someone like my exh, but it turned out I hadn't; he was just a step on the path. I don't believe in ending up any more, but I wasn't expecting to be with anyone like my bf, no. As a teenager he used to be in a punk bank - as a dedicated scaredy cat I would have run a mile based on that alone.

I saw myself with a geeky looking scientist, I don't know why. I'm attracted to smart guys with glasses. DH is a computer geek with glasses but also has tattoos, piercings, multi coloured hair and a motorbike. I call him my rebellious geek. He's responsible and generous but has this introverted badass vibe about him. Suits me!

Nope. I never imagined ending up with a very handsome, blonde, sporty, musical, brain box. The night I met him I gave myself a talking to vis a vis any potential expectations - he called me quite soon after . Nearly 32 years ago.

Yes. I never thought I'd marry anyone else .... We've known each other decades

Yes. Looks wise.

No, dh was definitely not the sort of person I had it mind, in terms of either personality or appearance. Not even down to the country I thought I'd live in or the sort of profession for a partner I thought would be best suited for me.

But I think my judgement was probably pretty awful before I met dh! Very grateful I did somehow miraculously end up with him and he somehow was certain that I was exactly the sort of person he should end up with. He's an amazing partner, and nothing like the absolute losers I'd been with in the past. Interestingly, now at this stage in my life, I would find it hard to see him as anything but my type, but in my 20s, I was definitely a bit amused at first that we even ended up dating and never saw it as a longterm thing.

We have both said if we had had to meet OLD we would never have dated. Opposites attract! Or more in our case we learn from our differences.

He's more than I ever dreamed of, and a bit more than that!

Looks wise my DH matched but he had a very active and deep faith, Bible study classes, missionary work, Bible camps etc. I grew up in a traditional religious household but my dad was an evil abusive arse so no way did I or my siblings want anything to do with religion. He always assumed he would marry someone from his church, the thought of a non believer was not an option. In fact his aunt said he had, 'committed a mortal sin' by marrying me.
3 kids (who got to chose their faith, or lack of, themselves) and 20 years on we are solid as we've ever been.

I met the perfect guy who was exactly who I thought I’d end up with. He broke up with me because of circumstances beyond our control. So I settled for DH. He isn’t who I’d have picked but I wanted a baby before time ran out, and he wanted a more attractive girl than he’d normally get so he was looking for someone who was willing to settle.

Nah. I always thought I'd marry Sam Neill (but only in his Jurassic Park days).

Yes because I had a bit of a crush on him when we were teenagers. Every boyfriend I've had has been tall and dark haired too, clearly I have a type

Although I'm pretty sure I'm not the physical type DH expected to end up with, his ex girlfriends were all short and blonde with no post GCSE education (I met them all, we've been friends since we were 11). I'm a 5'9 redhead 😁, with multiple degrees and professional qualifications.