Cheating

[adooran]

Hey girls after some help I have been in a relationship for 7 years now and I think am done ... 1st time he hurt me he kissed a girl he worked with I I forgave him second thing is he was on dating websites and sending pic to girls and blamed it on me saying i don't give him any attention bearing In mind I have 3 kids then in January he Radom texts me when he's a work saying he isn't coming home and don't love me anymore but we end up back together we have been back together two months and now some girls has messaged with pic of him masterbaiting on video call .... and he thinks everything okay I don't no what to do anymore it's like an numb and I duno

Are your children his too? I'd sack him, he sounds revolting.

He is vile. Dump him - permanently this time.

What's your housing situation?

You don’t know what to do? You dump him quick! He is not going to change his behaviour, don’t hang around in the hope he might. You can do better.

He's not going to stop - id get out or throw him out actually - horrible excuse for a boyfriend

Oh you poor thing. I feel awful for you as if you have children the idea of breaking up with him may be scary but you absolutely deserve better than this. Why do men gas light their partners and try to excuse their abhorrent behaviour (no doubt this time he'll tell you that you're not giving him enough sex and/or that it's just a bit of fun and you're silly to be upset). Pretty gross to be videoing that sort of stuff and sending it to people.
How can he possibly think this is OK??

You deserve so much better - so do your kids. Get out of this soulless sordid relationship. Life is too short to be miserable with someone like him. He sounds quite immature how old is he?

I no my youngest daughter is his and the house is mine ... I don't no weather am just scared to be alone or I do love him he says he feels guilty and don't why he done it this time and the only reason I found out is because they wanted money from him or they were sending me the pic so ovb got caught up in a scam ... my anxiety is already so high as I suffer from health anxiety and am waiting on smear results coming back so he also uses that as well like your just depressive all the time am not just when waiting on results my head is done in and I can't tell my mum coz she will lose her shit x

O he 27 am 31 x

OP you really do deserve so much more. If it's your house ask him to leave. It doesn't sound like he's being much of a support to you anyway you might actually feel less anxious if he's not there!
Oh and it's funny these kinds of men don't feel guilty until caught doing something wrong. He shouldn't be doing things like that in the first place.

I just feel so crap and so worried all at the same time don't really have many people to talk to ... I just want a happy relationship he says he can change etc but every time I look at the pic I got sent I feel sick meh

You know what to do, he won’t change and your anxiety will get better overnight once he’s gone. Good luck.

Hes sounds disgusting. Get rid.
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Thank you for your reply's ... it's good to talk especially when am not feeling my best and I don't really want to involve our family's I just wished he wasn't so stupid at times makes me so upset thinking he has a good life here with me he has a family people who love him what is the need to be doing shady shit like that hmmf x

It all boils down to this fact of life...

You can't polish a turd

You've seen what the outcome of trusting and forgiving this pos is several times. Forget what he says and look at what he does - this is his core character.

I would rather be alone forever than be publicly disrespected like this, and as for anxiety what could possibly be more anxiety inducing than waiting for his next fuck up, knowing it's coming but never knowing when!?

Sorry OP but this is what he is and the sooner you come to terms with it the better.

He's not stupid, he's a self absorbed, thirsty cunt.

I 100% no use see all right I haven't spoke to him I haven't been near him and last night he asked if he should move back to his mums so I think he got the picture now !

Not quite getting how your youngest DD is his, but older ones might not be?. That sounds like when you've had breaks from him, you've gone straight to someone else, so yes, I'd say in that case you have a great of being alone, but clearly that is what you should be for a good while before trying anyone else.

Fear of being alone

My older two age 13 and 10 my youngest is 5 who is his I was alone for a bit before I meet him I feel pregnant really quick with my youngest.. but yeah fear of being alone I definitely say I have that but I need to maybe have some more respect for myself and do it and maybe I will be happier and maybe one day a knight in shining armour will appear for me 😅😖

You know you need to bin him off, and that's why you're not telling your mum - as she'll tell you exactly the same and once you've told someone, it makes it real and you have to take action!

Thank god the house is yours!! Get rid of him now, he's never going to be a better person, especially if he keeps treating you like this and you keep accepting it!

You've already seen that 'having a man' doesn't automatically mean your life gets easier. Quite the reverse in this case.

Be your own knight in shining armour and get rid of this twat.

Don't immediately start looking for a replacement - enjoy your DC and build a life with friends, hobbies, learning etc.

Yeah I total get you not looking for anything else just looking to feel happy and not worried ... I will and can be my own knight in shining amour... just need to get myself together and stop holding on to the whole he will change xx