I really do need an ECG as I'm having a lot of heart palpitations, possibly down to changes in meds, but I think more likely the stress of DH winding me up about everything at every possible opportunity. Quick background - I've been unhappy for years, no intimacy for years from either of us, finally told him how I felt (that I'm not attracted to him anymore), went to counselling Nov 2019, he was devastated that I might want to separate, but since then has done nothing to make things better and is content to rumble along while I go quietly insane. I'm like a single mother, working, looking after the house and kids, while he lies on the sofa after he's finished work.
If he wants us to stay together, WHY does he wind me up with things he knows upsets me?? It's always politics, which we disagree 100% on, but I just keep my thoughts to myself. Last night (from his newly acquired armchair which sits on under the stairs, weirdly) he piped up with, "Bad news, (my name), Hartlepool is going blue." From out of nowhere. Just that comment. Nothing about it on telly at the time or anything, just randomly said. I felt like standing up and saying ffs, as 44 year old reasonably attractive fit woman, my husband should be touching me up in the kitchen, grabbing a quick kiss, making me a meal, anything but this! But he says all these things when the kids are nearby, knowing I won't react or say anything, so I just walked away and told the kids to come up to bed when they were ready. It might seem really petty to those of you reading this to get so upset about it as there is so much more to the story, but these little incidents just really get me annoyed and he knows it. Why does he do it? No doubt I'll be the bad guy now for being in a huff.
Oh, and this new chair he's bought, he cleared out the kids old toys area to make space for it, and threw out a castle that my youngest had made for a school competition. I'm still furious about this, which to him is also unreasonable. I feel like shouting "I need an ECG because of you!!" But I think it would sound unhinged, so I walk away, swear to myself, take a deep breath and go back to normal.
Sorry, I don't know what I want anyone to say, just getting it out here. Thanks for reading x