Left out of family and not told about sibling passing away

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My family have a group chat with all my siblings and parents but I’m not included in it. Recently my sibling past away last week (half sibling) but my mother who isn’t even related to my half sibling told everyone in the group chat but me. She could have messaged me privately but no, nothing atall. Till this day a few days later she still doesn’t know that I know.

I don’t really know how to feel about the fact that I wasn’t informed

That sounds very hurtful OP and I'm sorry about the passing of your sibling.

Could it be that your mum is busy dealing with the grief and the administration side of things and that it has slipped her mind to message you?

@MaizeBlouseNope not atall, she messaged me the following day about something completely out of the blue. She is not grieving atall. She barely knew my sibling.

Why are you not on the group chat? Is it your choice or have you been excluded?

Is this an oversight in the context of otherwise good and loving relationships with your family or part of a bigger picture of poor treatment?

@BramStoker I’ve been excluded, I never knew this family group chat existed till the other. Another of my siblings informed me about the group chat and passing of our sibling

Surely if you were close to your sibling you'd have been informed?

Ah OK I assumed it was her child that passed away.
It sounds like there's obviously more complications to your relationship with your mum, I can relate and this sounds similar to something my mum would do too. The only way I have sort of learned to deal with it is just accepting that she won't change, but I can change how much or little I let her actions effect me and how much insight she has in to my life. And basically I have gone pretty low contact, its made me feel a lot happier and I was in a cycle of always being let down/judged/excluded.

@SnuggyBuggy I do not live with them and haven’t done for a few years due to conflict. It’s like I’ve been wiped out of the family in a way 😅

@Geamhradh I was informed by another member of my family. But my mom was the first to know and informed everyone else but me, I found out a day later

Sorry for your loss.
She probably knows that someone has informed you. Still unkind of her not to speak to you about it / ask how you are

@MaizeBlouse I understand you 100%. I don’t know whether to be hurt or not. Im just numb to it all.

Do they use a social media that you aren't willing to use? That's the only somewhat reasonable explanation I can think of here.

It may be that even though they are biologically related to you they aren't "your people" and you'd be better off focusing your energy on the people who do care about you.

@BrilliantBetty probably, but a member of my family told me after I was told to act like I never knew when and if my mum told me about the death. But she still hasn’t..

I think that sadly you are your mothers scapegoat and as a result you are ignored and otherwise airbrushed out of any family business. This particular sibling still cares about you and had the decency to let you know about your late half sibling.