Hi, we’ve been married for almost 15 years, have two children and have been quite happy with only occasional disagreements. Last few years though we have grown apart. There’s so much boredom between us and I know lockdown hasn’t helped but we’ve kinda lived separate lives. We don’t share hobbies. My hubby is very cold person and doesn’t have much empathy for our children or for me. I’ve been poorly for the last few years with a condition that makes me feel up and down and he has proven to be the most useless husband on my bad days. He works hard for us, we’ve a nice house, a holiday home, nice cars and I should be happy working just 2 days a week but having everything. My other issue is that he is in control of all our money and asking me what I spent £1.20 the other day doesn’t bother him! We have no debts apart from our mortgage. I can’t go out for coffees with friends or just buy myself something nice because he is on my back straight away. I feel so guilty pulling out my purse paying for stuff, even groceries or things for the kids, because I know I’ll be interrogated as soon as I get home. I feel trapped because we don’t split our money and I have no access to any, I feel that his controlling behaviour is now really annoying the kids too because they’re permanently under an instruction or two and they don’t dare to step out of the line. I’m so unhappy and need to leave him but I don’t know how. My family live abroad and I can’t get their help. What should I do?