Feeling very lost and lonely

[crochetmonkey74]

I've posted about my situation before, but I feel that my real life friends need a break from supporting me and I just dont know who else to talk to. My relationship split up in early Jan and about 2 weeks later my best friend (or so I thought) just stopped talking to me as she got a new boyfriend and didnt think I was enthusiastic about it enough. I'm also coping with the suicide of another friend . I've had a terrible few months but they are getting better but I just cant shake the feeling if being so lonely. I have a nice cosy home and am trying all the suggestions like facetime, chatting, hobbies, baths etc but theres this feeling of loss and as things open back up the feeling that my ex will be out having fun, meeting people and dating and I will just be stuck lonely and a bit lost. If you've felt like this, what helped you? Any advice gratefully received!

You've really been through the mill and I feel for you.

Last time I felt like this I upped sticks and moved to another country but I appreciate that this isn't particularly helpful advice - in fact it's not advice!

What I would say though, is to try some new things, maybe even something that would put you outside your comfort zone. This could be travel, career stuff, volunteering, getting a pet, learning to ride a horse or anything really that would give you a new take on things.

Best of luck OP, you can do it

Thank you I think I keep forgetting how much has happened and I feel like I should be moving on but it's still early days really

It is very hard to move on. I haven't and it is nearly 4 years since we separated, it was his choice, he is now in his third relationship and I am still struggling, I dread when he is going to introduce her to the kids, I don't want him to play happy family with my kids and her. I don't want to see her.

I really want to move on, I don’t want to be stuck so I’m hoping it will pass. It’s really hard though.

The feelings of loss are absolutely understandable, goss you’ve been through so much recently. I’m sorry about your friend who took their life, that alone is a lot to cope with, let alone your relationship and your best friend going awol. Firstly, be gentle with yourself, recovering takes time and you are doing loads of great stuff, facetime bath etc. Have you heard of SOBS? It’s for anyone affected by loss through suicide, it could be a place to reach out to if you wanted to talk through feelings connected to your friend. Pp advice to start something new is great, it’s like a restart, something fresh that you can throw yourself into. Personally id recommend a community choir if you’ve ever fancied it. So uplifting and loads of new people to meet. Wishing you loads of luck, you are doing so well 💐💐

Oh a choir sounds great and also my friend loved doing her choir so a nice tribute. Thank you!