Dam Covid

[Thismightwork]

Separated last year, husband was meant to leave country afterwards, Covid happened and he is still here,making no move. Best of friends but I'm finding it hard to even ask him to leave, suppose I'm sick of the last few years. But,we both need to get on with our lives. I have a feeling he won't budge....any advice or words appreciated.

@category12

If you have ensured he genuinely has no legal claim to stay in your home (which seems strange to me while you're still married, but anyway), just give him, say, 4 weeks notice to leave formally.

You say you both really get on still, so there should be no problem just saying "hey ex, I think it's time we both moved things along plus I want to have my house to myself now, so I'm giving you until [x date] to find somewhere else to live."

Thank you,finally some advice. You might all find this strange,but sometimes if confidence is low after a few hard years...its difficult to keep going or find the words to use.

@wdmtthgcock

There's no way he's going anywhere when he can live in the house you are paying the mortgage on and he's doesn't even need to work.

I know you said the thread is about getting him to leave and not about divorcing him but if you started legal divorce proceedings you'd be able to get rid of him.

Go and see a solicitor - even if you don't want go get divorced... go and see what they say about how to get rid of him. And do not trust a word he says about waiving his right to this that and the other blah blah.

Thanks for the reply. The waiver to rights and other inheritances is in the deed of separation. I also have a deed of transfer for the title. I take your point about seeing my solicitor for advice,even if I have no intention of divorce.

Good - now do what the poster above suggests and give him a month to leave. If he then doesn't, resort to legal means as he presumably then isn't sticking to the terms of the deed of separation if he won't leave the property.