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I'm so confused

12 replies

Dani80 · 02/05/2021 14:06

Hi all, I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months, he stayed with me Friday night all was good, I dropped him home at 10am to have his kids yesterday morning. We were texting each other as normal until about 1.30. Around 8pm I get a message just saying 'its over' I was getting my son to bed so I just sent a quick reply saying OK if thats how you feel but no explanation after 7 months. I didnt get a reply to this. I got a text at 1.40am saying he was beat up tonight. I just said I'm sorry thats happened but you said it was over so im not sure what you want me to say.
Hes now saying he didn't mean it was over, he'd just been jumped and beat up thought he was going to die so just text saying its over.
Hes never given me any reason to doubt him before but I really dont believe him. Why would he text at 8pm saying its over but then nothing until 1.40am saying hes been beat up. I think he let the kids down and went out and when he sent me that message he really meant it was over but then hes been beat up and wants sympathy from me, he says I'm wrong and believe what I want but it doesn't make sense to me at all.
He said he reported it to police and he was so badly beaten up he thought he was gunna die yet hasn't been to the hospital.
Just wondering what other people think? Am I right in thinking hes just talking a load of shit
TIA

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TeeBee · 02/05/2021 14:09

Sounds like a load of shit to me.

LemonTT · 02/05/2021 14:11

There is no good explanation that doesn’t involve bringing trouble to your door.

eviesmum · 02/05/2021 14:12

I call BS and if you knows what's good for you you'll run for the hills.

Hockeyboysmum · 02/05/2021 14:14

Total BS. And even letting his kids down would be a dealbreaker for me

Aquamarine1029 · 02/05/2021 14:14

Block and move on. He's either a liar or he's unhinged, neither of which will work. Be grateful you didn't invest anymore time with him.

HollowTalk · 02/05/2021 14:17

I call bullshit too. He ended it then regretted it and wants you to feel sorry for him. More likely someone's whacked him because of something he did.

lulupooh · 02/05/2021 14:18

Broke up with you because he was trying to pull, regrets it's now because he couldn't. I'd ask to see pics of injuries and ask if he's rung the police etc. Don't take him back!! It's a terrible excuse.

Dani80 · 02/05/2021 14:26

Thank you everyone, I also have thought he ended it because he went out and thought he might pull and now hes trying to lie his way out of it because he thinks I'm a mug that will just believe everything he says and go running round feeling sorry for him. Think I've had a lucky escape from this one. Makes me feel better knowing everyone agrees with me that its bullshit

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Wanderlusto · 02/05/2021 14:34

Sounds like bullshit to me.
He's a shit liar to boot.

And your instincts told you exactly why too! Epic. Good on you for listening to your head!

Bet he was also hoping you would beg and plead to take him back and you didn't so it hurt his ego. Now he is testing again to see if you'll take him back. He sounds a proper mindfucking phony.

I'd block his number if I were you. No good will come of him.

Anydreamwilldo12 · 02/05/2021 15:05

What a load of shite, he's a right tosser!

Block and move on.

Dani80 · 02/05/2021 17:07

Thank you
I've not replied to him since this morning as I can't be doing with hearing anymore of his lies, im definitely not going to be begging him to take me back thats for sure.
I've been for a gym session had a good rant with my sister and yes I think its time now to block him and not look back

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Wanderlusto · 02/05/2021 17:16

I often think some of these assholes come into our lives in order to test us. To test if we are ready to choose ourselves. Like life sends them as challenges or something.

Sounds like you passed this one with flying colours! :)

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