New relationship

[Ange36]

Needing some advice .
7 weeks into a relationship started off seeing him once a week then twice a week now haven't seen him this week , he is a single parent but has help am I expecting to much to soon I really don't know what to think any advice would be great

Well what's his excuse for not meeting? As a single parent I also find it hard to make time for my man sometime s

I ask to see him and he says he will see what he can sort but not come back to me with anything. I too am a single parent but make the time for him

I wouldn't bother any more, OP, sorry. What's the point in having a boyfriend who can't be bothered to make the effort to see you?

'See what he can sort out and get back to you' sounds a bit like he can't be arsed OP, I think you need to move on.

What do you mean by 'he has help'?

Maybe 'the help' can't help or doesn't want to help all the time.

If you are in the early stages of dating a single parent then I think once a week or once a fortnight is probably about right.

As time goes on maybe more but not if the other parent is not about.

He managed once a week, then managed twice, but then you've had nothing for a week without explanation. He could have the best reason in the world, but hasn't had the decency to tell you why, and for that reason alone, it's time to move on to someone willing to show more respect.

Is the mother involved at all or does he have them full time? How many children is he juggling?

I'd cut him some slack if he's doing 24-7 parenting by himself. And if you feel like dating him wouldn't meet your needs, then I'd walk away now whilst it's still early days.

I think OP he is not interested

He isn't interested. If he was and was too busy he would make sure that you understood.

Thanks all I've questioned it and said he's been busy with work and kids still no idea of when ill see him im sick of asking to be honest . He has 3 kids and his mum is always there to help she practically lives with him so I dont get it. He couldn't wait to put in a relationship on Facebook weeks ago now this , ive asked if im expecting too much too soon and he said no

Doesn't sound too interested

When my mum, sister and I were all single and dating, we quickly learnt not to make excuses for inattentive men. The details may vary but the bottom line is that it’s either because the man was just not that interested or he was unavailable. Usually it was the former. When men are interested, they make time to be in touch and be available. If they’re not making time for that, it’s because they’re not that interested.

Why on Earth do you want a guy with 3 bloody kids? He's not into you, move on.

7 weeks isn't a relationship it's dating and if a parent has to look after their kids then that's the end of it. There is no reason to think he's not into you at this stage - maybe he's not, but slow down eh?

@osbertthesyrianhamster

Why on Earth do you want a guy with 3 bloody kids? He's not into you, move on.

Wow! Should single parents with 3 kids be single forever since they are so defective?

Never said they were defective, but that's really setting yourself up for a lot of work, particularly if you don't have any kids yourself - and just read the step parenting board.

I think its fair enough for him to be busy and maybe not be able to see you for a week or two. BUT if he's interested then he should be keen to make sure you know that he does want to see you, put a date in the diary for a week or two time etc. The fact he's not doing that would bother me too.