Ex, parenting and cocaine

[iamtheoneandonlyyy]

I've suspected Ex of cocaine use over the last year and asked him if he has because he has access to our kids.
There is long nasty history from him, but children adore him so he sees them for their sake. He pretends he cares for them.
Anyway a few times I've mentioned he seems to have the sniffles at drop off but he's denied it obviously
Yesterday a letter came here that I opened without checking the envelope (been nearly a year I assume post is mine) and it had a letter from the hospital related to something else but specifically mentioned that yes, he does 'inhale cocaine'
I shouldn't have this information but now I do I don't know what to do.
I have zero regret that I've seen it or anything like that, he's an out and out bastard that's just clever enough to never quite do anything public enough to be called out on it. He makes life a misery

That's what I was thinking. And then he will know I know anyway so I don't need to say a word

Hi a man's and father's pov here, you should seriously consider only allowing child contact in a controlled environment like a contact centre,!! God forbid if he off his head 1 day and has custody of your children,!!

Hi, I have looked into it before it is worth bearing in mind. Thankyou

Take a photo of the letter and hand him the opened one. He'll know you know. See what he says.

I think his num is his saving grace at the moment but record every incident of suspect or horrible behaviour and maybe call social services for advice and support.

Thankyou for all of the advice.
I have made a copy and taken a photo, I will give him the letter as well.
I looked at a contact centre a while back not because of the children or his behaviour with them but because he used drop offs as a way to be nasty to me and although they come first it reached the point o couldn't face him anymore.
However he wouldn't go to one and it would seem to the children I was stopping them from seeing him.
I took advice a while ago from the domestic violence helpline and they were so helpful and since then I don't do drop offs alone and I avoid contact with him as much as possible.

Just a thought. If the children are school age, you could get him to collect them from school. Then ask him mum to drop them back to yours or you collect from his mum.
I don't think you can under estimate the stress involved for the children when hand overs are abusive. Even if the abuse is only towards the other parent rather than the children (not belittling it though).

I did think about that but I also have a toddler so would still have to handover.
His mum loves the kids but she's not keen on me funnily enough so now I literally drop them and leave immediately and I don't go alone to collect.
Strangely enough he gives no hassle if I take a male with me. Funny that