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Older man

16 replies

Sarahpolks · 30/04/2021 20:37

I refused advances somebody who is 18 years older than me. He was trying for 5 years. I could be having good life with him because of his money. But I couldn't face the age gap.

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 30/04/2021 20:40

I'm not sure what you're asking here.

spotcheck · 30/04/2021 20:42

Well, say no then.

I'm not sure what the question is?

I think there is something seriously wrong with a person who pursues someone for 5 years. Those types are often in it for the thrill of The chase.

HereLiveIAmNotACat · 30/04/2021 20:42

Cool story bro

SionnachGlic · 30/04/2021 20:45

Something was telling you he wasn't for you....& money might buy a comfortable but the compromise shouldn't be happiness ...or love. You must be looking back because you are not quite happy in your life now...focus on changing that instead.

momtoboys · 30/04/2021 20:48

The love of my life is 13 years older than me.

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Sarahpolks · 30/04/2021 20:51

My previous is 30 years older I was scared.

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StormborninaTeacup · 30/04/2021 20:58

My husband is 17y older than me - I am 30. We are very happy! Age really is just a number 🙂

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Sarahpolks · 30/04/2021 20:59

Just bad experiences I couldn't face it to go through again

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StormborninaTeacup · 30/04/2021 20:59

Sorry, posted before update! I just have rubbish internet...

PegasusReturns · 30/04/2021 21:00

Sounds like it’s nothing to do with age and everything to do with not fancying him.

You’re attracted to who you’re attracted to who. No money is worth putting up with someone you dislike.

Sarahpolks · 30/04/2021 21:03

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Singlenotsingle · 30/04/2021 21:06

My man is 69 and no way is he a grumpy old man. We have great fun together. Maybe that's because I'm 69 too!

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Sarahpolks · 30/04/2021 21:13

I do like him a lot although now is too late he is upset that I commented about age difference and he won't forgive me.

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SionnachGlic · 30/04/2021 21:24

He gave up very easily so after 5 yrs in pursuit. And you can't have liked him that much...otherwise you'd not have held him at arm's length for 5 years. Time to move on....

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Sarahpolks · 30/04/2021 21:31

Too big class difference upper class to the emigrant in minimum paid job I couldn't cope with this.

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SionnachGlic · 30/04/2021 21:55

OP, I don't even understand your last post.... if you can't cope with whatever then you don't have to ...as you'be already said you said No...& he is no longer interested now due to your attitude towards age. Which, from your last comment, now seems like not the only issue you have with him. Just forget about him & the whole dilemma....which really isn't a dilemma if you decided against it for a whole 5 yrs already.

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