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Need a rant

9 replies

Sparkles556 · 30/04/2021 19:28

Just opened a can of orange in the kitchen, had a drink and put it back in the fridge. I walk into the living room and DP goes “what was that you just opened?” (It was quite clearly a can as you could tell by the sound) I said a can of orange. He then said “do you ever stop with the fizzy pop?” It wasn’t said in a jokey way as he didn’t smile or laugh after saying it. Plus I know him inside out and I know what he meant by it. I wouldn’t mind but it’s not like I drink it everyday. Fair enough, I am a little overweight, but not to the point where I can’t have a can. I’ve just spent the last 2 hours bathing both children, making tea, feeding our baby and changing him all while he’s been on his phone gambling and going out every half an hour for a fag and I’m getting grief for having a fizzy drink ffs. I realise this sounds really petty but I needed to get it off my chest😬

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Aquamarine1029 · 30/04/2021 19:31

You're not petty, it's infuriating, and I'd be asking him who the fuck he thinks he is. After that, I would start making plans to leave this fuckwit. Gambling, smoking, and does fuck all. What's the point of him?

Sexnotgender · 30/04/2021 19:32

Why are you wasting your life with such a nasty little loser?

AttilaTheMeerkat · 30/04/2021 19:35

Sparkles

You wrote about him not so long ago and I replied to your thread then too. This example is yet another in a long line of crap behaviour towards you and in turn your kids who are seeing this rubbish relationship being played out in front of them.

What do you want to teach your children about relationships and what are they learning here?.

Why is your relationship bar this low here that he is in your life at all, what happened to you?

sqirrelfriends · 30/04/2021 19:57

Oh sparkles, your not being petty.

Please don't put up with this behaviour. You should be able to have a sip of fizzy drink without being made to feel bad about it, it's insane that he would judge you for it (especially taking into consideration how he's spent his evening so far).

Thanks
junebirthdaygirl · 01/05/2021 08:18

Sounds like he immediately wanted to put you in a down position as he knew he was out of order not helping you with the dc, idling around being a total loser. So to make himself feel better he puts you down. This man has nothing to offer you.

pog100 · 01/05/2021 08:31

He is a horrible weak man doing his best to keep a strong woman down. Don't rant to us, rant directly to him, you have right on your side or even better coldly and calmly organise leaving the piece of shit. This sort of thing really annoys me!

CirqueDeMorgue · 01/05/2021 08:36

Well if his problem is that fizzy pop is unhealthy, you should probably mention that whole thing about smoking...

billy1966 · 01/05/2021 09:20

Why are you with such a horror?

Is he gambling family money?

If you have joint finances, be very careful.

Life with a gambler is hell.

Contact Gam Anon for support.

Flowers
pictish · 01/05/2021 09:28

I bet if you said, “where are you going?” when he goes out for a fag, then followed up with, “Do you ever stop with the fags?”, he wouldn’t be all that receptive to it.

I don’t know...it could be a simple case of unintentional hypocrisy...or it could that he feels he has some authority over you. What do you think?

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