Birthday

[Fedupat40]

Hi just a quick one my bf of two years met me for lunch yesterday for my Bday. He paid for a pub lunch and bought me a card, large box of chocolates and made me a cake. When my friends asked what he had bought me they said he’s taking the p@ss as he earns quite a lot of money and proceeded to make fun of it. I was happy with the gifts as I never usually get anything. A good day turned into a bad one as my friends made me feel shit 😕 Just venting really as it makes me not want to tell them anything in future.

I’ve told my DH that, unless there is something specific we want for our birthday, let’s organise a day out or something instead. In normal times obviously. Covid and maternity pay has put a bit of a downer on that the last couple of birthdays.

Your boyfriend sounds lovely and, if you were happy with it and he put thought into your birthday, that’s all that matters. Ignore your grabby friends.

Blimey Op I can't see anything wrong with what you got.

Me and DH have a good combined income (most of it coming from his work as we have 3 under 5). We've never done expensive gifts. We tend to have a nice meal/trip out (or takeaway in Covid) and spend less than £10 on some chocolate
The only times we've spent more.is when there's been something one of us really wants but can't quite justify buying for ourselves (like a contributing to £60 on a willow weaving/blacksmithing course)

We have a comfortable income and life. Beyond that neither of us really value money and wouldn't want to be with someone who does. Life should be more than a financial transaction.

I think he did enough. He was thoughtful.

Your friends don't sound very nice.

@sunnyzweibrucken

wow he made you a cake? that would be enough of a gift to me. i find it strange how people judge how other's celebrate occasions. lavish gifts aren't my thing, i'd prefer for someone to put thought and effort into something instead. one of my favorite birthday gifts were awesome framed pics of my daughter and our puppies. i prefer that to a dinner out and a name brand pair of shoes or purse.

Agree with this.

OP, your "friends" sound quite toxic and are probably jealous your boyfriend apparently has a good job so are trying to cause discord in your relationship. Even if they themselves would have preferred different gifts in your position, it's very telling they chose to say that out loud to you which shows spitefulness on their part. I'd be developing new friendships if I were you.

Thank you all for your replies. Just been out for birthday meal number 2. I have learned my lesson I will keep my private life exactly that in future ❤️

I think what he did was so thoughtful and he took the time to make a cake etc - that’s lovely. Ignore your friends.

Ignore your friends they seem high maintenance.. what your partner did was lovely and very thoughtful.. the fact he made you a cake is wonderful