Hi, I recently split from my partner after 4 years of emotional abuse which started when I was pregnant. He finally moved out.
He never thought that he did anything wrong, even though he used to wake me up to shout at me, cancelled 'treat meals' because of something trivial I had done even though I didnt know about them yet....I was always told off after any family party for sitting somewhere wrong.
.or speaking to someone too much. He criticised things round the house, accused me of having affairs, left the house in a strop when I got a new job etc etc...
How do I heal? How do I stop getting angry when I remember what I put up with? How do I stop being angry with myself for not leaving sooner? How do I get over the fact that he wants our son, now 4, half the week, despite the fact that if my son woke crying in the night, he used to shout at him, 'what now! Shut up!' Etc. He always said that our son, 'did his head in,' after an hour and let me do the vast majority of maternity leave and the first few years so why does he want him half a week now?
Sorry. It all seems so raw still and I just want him out of my head so that he doesn't spoil any more of my life. Xx