As my partner is blaming lockdown but I’m not sure. Things have came to a head over something silly but ultimately him talking to me like crap. When I had enough of being upset I made noises about how I’m fed up living like this and he said it’s lockdown, he’s sorry and it’ll be better once things get back to normal.
I get it it’s hard we both work feom home, have two children and things are monotonous. Previous to lockdown however we had other issues but I can see why he’s struggling more.
He said nothing brings him joy and he doesn’t enjoy going to the safari (something we done recently). He finds it boring and he needs more to life. Before covid he travelled a lot with work, lots of drinking, socialising and nights out. That brought its own issues as he would be disrespectful to me during these times with staying out all night partying and lying about things.
Now that’s stopped it seems he might be depressed without that life. He doesn’t feel fulfilled doing the family stuff that I have always had to do. And it shows. I feel like I’m forcing him to be with us, do stuff with us and enjoy me and the kids.
I’m feeling a bit deflated after another day where I’m in tears and feeling depressed by the way he speaks to me.
Intimacy is at a real low. He doesn’t even try now which is unusual for him. He still has the desire to however, just not with me seemingly.
I don’t know whether to wait it out as lockdown may be making things worse or whether just to take the first step to build a happy future for me and the kids. We have been together 12 years, both work full time.