Anyone single at 33 and wanting children? - Why do I stress so much?

[samanthaC15]

Hey... I get so worried over this! I'm single 33 and longing for DC - Anyone else? Am I worrying for no reason?

My friend had her first baby at 39 if that helps? She conceived naturally and like you was worried about it through her 30s. My Nan had twins naturally in her 40s.
One thing I would say though is that you shouldn’t look for perfect in someone as it doesn’t exist. Find someone kind, it’s a great quality for a life partner

I'm very close in age, want children and have just met someone but there's a chance it may not work out for practical reasons.

I am worrying too, especially as lockdown has been crappy timing for those in our position but we just need to act. All being well, we have time, just not forever.

You might already be on it so apologies if I'm telling you what you already know but if you want to have a family with someone rather than a donor, throw your energy into looking. if online dating go straight for a paid service, not just endless swiping on Tinder and Bumble (same crowd on both) and be clear on your profile and in conversation before you even meet that you're looking for a serious relationship and not just a good time. Go for those who have put effort into their profile, doesn't have to be wildly imaginative but at least not blank, emojis or some copy and paste shite about wanting to leave the single market before the UK does. Be decisive and discontinue anything that doesn't feel right. Careful not to waste time trying to make something work if you are not compatible.

If this sounds forensic and joyless it is only because I spent a lot of time not being decisive enough and became totally sick of online dating.

I made embryos at 29 to try and make sure I could go it alone in my late 30s if I still hadn't met anyone.

My friend has just told me she is pregnant at 46! It’s her last hope really, due to fertility issues and she’s mega high risk. But it’s all working out and she was single as she hit 41.

If I were you I’d be actively looking for a partner and also have a plan B for your mid-late 30’s :)