Opposites attract?

[Spiceyornicey]

Do opposites attract?
Often on tv dating shows ( first dates etc), the daters are delighted by coincidences , shared hobbies or similar background and so on. It seems to be the general assumption that this kind of similarity is a good thing, and people look to mirror themselves somewhat in a relationship.
I actively seek relationships with people who are very different from me, and I’m not sure why.
When I meet a person I have loads in common with, who I can talk for hours with, I immediately knock them off the list of people I could have a romantic encounter with. Why do I do this?
I am far more likely to be attracted to someone
with qualities I don’t have, and
I think to an extent it makes for pretty co-dependent types of relationships with, on reflection, plenty of friction.
So I’m wondering, if you chose a partner like yourself, is life more blissful? Or is the Jack Sprat relationship model a better one?

I think it's fine to be the way you are - as long as it works, it works. What you need to be careful if in long term relationships is what you pointed out - lack of conversation and lack of intimacy due to the both if you having different lives and not sharing hobbies. Sort of a ship passing in the night type of situation.

Do you think you could be deliberately trying to hijack the relationship by choosing someone so different? Are you scared of commitment or abandonment? Do you like yourself as s person? Are you scared that if the person is very similar to you that they'll see the real you more easily as you're on the same wavelength? Are you scared of getting bored of them because they don't offer you anything new or different?

How has it worked out for you, going for people who are so different?